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Old 05-30-2015, 05:24 PM
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There are some good suggestions here (ignore the title it works for most social occasions)

Crying Out Now: Thanksgiving Survival Guide

I can;t stress enough the thinking ahead part.

If you're known as a drinker have a response really for when someone asks you if you want a drink or asks you why you're not drinking...

the reason doesn't have to be a long essay about your alcoholism with you standing on a table making a speech...something like 'I don't feel like it', 'for my health' I'm driving' are all valid reasons.

Have an escape plan too just in case it all gets too much- it's ok to be seen to be there...and then leave after a little while.

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Old 05-30-2015, 05:47 PM
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Very good advice. The only issue I see is I can't just show face and leave type of this because it is a small meeting with stakeholders (who drink like fish). We have to discuss some business related planning etc.

So it isn't the type of thing I can escape out the back door. But I def appreciate that ideas.

I think you're right that planning is the best route.

One time I was sober for like 2 months and a business associate really pressured me to drink. I was in China and over there the pressure is very strong.

This will be similar except a bit easier I guess. (In the west theee isn't as much of an emphasis on drinking for business)
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I'm in the same boat, why do we keep putting ourselves through this hell? Welcome back, we can do this!
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Old 05-30-2015, 06:57 PM
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You could tell them you're on medication that doesn't allow you to drink. You can think up some innocuous reason you'd be on medication beforehand in case they want more detail.

I would always just tell people (even co-workers) that I don't drink anymore. But this is the one scenario where I would use a different tactic. A white lie here might not be a bad play. Just don't allow them to pressure you to drink.
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Old 05-31-2015, 03:18 AM
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Day 25
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Old 05-31-2015, 05:44 PM
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I survived my dinner.
I just ordered club soda and to my surprise everyone copied me.
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Good deal. That worked out well.
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Day 26. Bad insomnia again.

Glad to be checking in.
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Haven't slept yet but I'll do a 28 check in because there is 0% chance I'll drink in the next 30 mins.
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Enjoyed reading your thread! Your doing great! Keep it up
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Old 06-03-2015, 01:49 AM
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"Official 28 check in"

With a touch of insominia.
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Old 06-04-2015, 04:01 AM
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day before big 3-0

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Nice work, hadmyshare. Hope you'll start sleeping better soon.
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Woot! That's 30 days drink free!
I'll celebrate my small victory with a club soda!
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Nice going hms.
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Congrats on hitting the 30 day mark, nicely done!!!!
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Congratulations on a month clean and sober.

Sounds like you're doing great
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