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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: United States
Posts: 5
All good things take time
Hello. I want to let you know things will get better. In the past 7 weeks, I've broken up with my addict/bipolar bf, lost my car, lost my job, and lost a close family member.
You know what though, the bad things that happened to me have been blessings in disguise. I finally got away from a very unhealthy relationship (haven't looked back), read a few self-help books, started going to therapy, went back to school (and, so far, killing all my exams), and, I saved the best for last, I reconnected with my grandma after a few years. Good things will happen, you just must stay positive.
You know what though, the bad things that happened to me have been blessings in disguise. I finally got away from a very unhealthy relationship (haven't looked back), read a few self-help books, started going to therapy, went back to school (and, so far, killing all my exams), and, I saved the best for last, I reconnected with my grandma after a few years. Good things will happen, you just must stay positive.
I lost my job a couple years back, was drinking HEAVILY and had a wife and two kids depending solely on me.
Two new doors opened; a new job and the beginning of me trying to get sober.
You're a strong person Sasha... We all believe in you!
My advice is to make a schedule for your day if you're not working. Schedule things like cleaning, exercise, meetings, spedning time with your sponsor, maybe volunteering. That way, you won't wake up with this huge block of time to fill.
No matter what happens Sasha, you'll be okay!
A year after recovery, I still considered myself an "unemployed alcoholic". What a terrible way to describe and think of myself! I was much more than that. You are a great mum, an intelligent woman, a great friend, and a smart and reliable colleague to many. You've overcome some challenges that not many could have done. You are well-traveled and loved by many!
Of course you're going to be in the dumps when you think you might be made redundant. However, today you are fine and there's no need to waste time today feeling bad about something that might potentially happen in the future. This could be a great time to start browsing the web for new opportunities in employment! It's kind of fun to look for a new career and a fresh start....all the best and stay strong.
A year after recovery, I still considered myself an "unemployed alcoholic". What a terrible way to describe and think of myself! I was much more than that. You are a great mum, an intelligent woman, a great friend, and a smart and reliable colleague to many. You've overcome some challenges that not many could have done. You are well-traveled and loved by many!
Of course you're going to be in the dumps when you think you might be made redundant. However, today you are fine and there's no need to waste time today feeling bad about something that might potentially happen in the future. This could be a great time to start browsing the web for new opportunities in employment! It's kind of fun to look for a new career and a fresh start....all the best and stay strong.
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Join Date: Oct 2014
Posts: 1,319
Hi Sasha,
Popping in here late, but wanted to say I'm thinking good thoughts and hope that with this loss a new opportunity arises around the corner thatis even better. Sometimes the universe works that way. Take extra special care of uourself, okay?
Popping in here late, but wanted to say I'm thinking good thoughts and hope that with this loss a new opportunity arises around the corner thatis even better. Sometimes the universe works that way. Take extra special care of uourself, okay?
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: UK
Posts: 514
Right, stop and take a few deep breaths. Be ready for your AV/shoulder sitting demon etc to go at you. Tell it to bugger off as you NEED to be sober to think and plan ahead.
You CAN get through this without drinking and everybody at SR is with you every step of the way x
You CAN get through this without drinking and everybody at SR is with you every step of the way x
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Join Date: Oct 2014
Posts: 1,319
I am so sorry to hear this Sasha. I don't know if this is possible, but if you can take the day to rest and absorb that might help. I find being in nature when I'm sad particularly healing. Please take care of yourself and stick close to SR and your other support systems. Know that it is okay and important to grieve when these things happen. Try to catch yourself though if you find yourself catastrophizing, as I sometimes do. That sometimes can make s difficult situation worse.
Sending you peaceful thoughts and support.
Sending you peaceful thoughts and support.
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Join Date: May 2014
Location: Braintree
Posts: 13
Today I found out I am most likely to be made redundant from my job.
I have this playing on repeat in my head..........
'Everything will be okay in the end. If its not okay, its not the end'.
.....................I need you to remind me of this when things get a bit much.
I've been through a lot in the last few years.
Serious health problems and a relationship ending.
I'm a single mum.
I don't know why but this seems to be scaring me more than the health stuff and the relationship stuff did.
I guess its the financial fears I have.
There is sadness for me too. 18 years worked with some of my colleagues.
Its also the fear of being home everyday, on my own, with time to kill.
I've been made redundant before. It was before my drinking took off. It just scares me as I don't think idle times are good when you think and drink like I did.
Thank you in advance xx
I have this playing on repeat in my head..........
'Everything will be okay in the end. If its not okay, its not the end'.
.....................I need you to remind me of this when things get a bit much.
I've been through a lot in the last few years.
Serious health problems and a relationship ending.
I'm a single mum.
I don't know why but this seems to be scaring me more than the health stuff and the relationship stuff did.
I guess its the financial fears I have.
There is sadness for me too. 18 years worked with some of my colleagues.
Its also the fear of being home everyday, on my own, with time to kill.
I've been made redundant before. It was before my drinking took off. It just scares me as I don't think idle times are good when you think and drink like I did.
Thank you in advance xx
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