The profundity of loss
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The profundity of loss
Almost two years ago a number of us arrived here at SR, we are a disparate group from all over the world, our commonality was addiction to something and our need to become sober. We were a rollicking loud group, I would not encourage such behaviour at SR now but we were so rollicking we had to be disciplined by the ever patient and forgiving Anna and Dee. Their faith in us led to incredible Class bonding.
We became such a strongly attached group that we picked up friends along the way so now the Class of March 2013 includes many people with all sorts of dates for sobriety. Our Class posts daily and sometimes many times a day. We know each other well, we care for each other, we are indeed simply an SR Class like so many -- you know how it is if you participate in a class.
We have fun together, we celebrate achievements, we help each other through.
We worry. In the two years we have been together some people have fallen off the radar. We know some didn't make it, we hope some did, we encourage those who return. We are all at different dates and some people haven't stopped yet but we hope they will.
And then...there are those who don't quite believe that putting down is possible, so you give everything you can in the way you think best. And then the day comes, the day you can't quite believe, the day that you find out that tough love, gentle love, whatever love won't work.
It's the day that you find out one of your classmates is dead.
We became such a strongly attached group that we picked up friends along the way so now the Class of March 2013 includes many people with all sorts of dates for sobriety. Our Class posts daily and sometimes many times a day. We know each other well, we care for each other, we are indeed simply an SR Class like so many -- you know how it is if you participate in a class.
We have fun together, we celebrate achievements, we help each other through.
We worry. In the two years we have been together some people have fallen off the radar. We know some didn't make it, we hope some did, we encourage those who return. We are all at different dates and some people haven't stopped yet but we hope they will.
And then...there are those who don't quite believe that putting down is possible, so you give everything you can in the way you think best. And then the day comes, the day you can't quite believe, the day that you find out that tough love, gentle love, whatever love won't work.
It's the day that you find out one of your classmates is dead.
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Very sad. Sorry for your loss.
Everyone struggling on SR is serious business. Sometimes it is difficult emotionally when I see some that keep having a hard time. It is our shared responsibility to keep reaching and supporting, with love and open arms.
Everyone struggling on SR is serious business. Sometimes it is difficult emotionally when I see some that keep having a hard time. It is our shared responsibility to keep reaching and supporting, with love and open arms.
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You did indeed Jim and we have never forgotten that. We all miss you Jim, we'd love for you to come and say hello right here: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...part-37-a.html You have a lot of friends here Jim.
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We can only be there and support, ultimately we can't do the work of sobriety for someone. It pains me too to know that some of my SR friends have "gone back out there". I often wonder how they are and hope they are okay.
To anyone reading, please don't get cavalier about sobriety! If you relapse then you can try again. But but sometimes you don't come back from it. Much better to stay sober than to have to climb that mountain again.
So sorry Marcher. It's a difficult thing to deal with for sure.
To anyone reading, please don't get cavalier about sobriety! If you relapse then you can try again. But but sometimes you don't come back from it. Much better to stay sober than to have to climb that mountain again.
So sorry Marcher. It's a difficult thing to deal with for sure.
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