2Wheelterror

Been sober 20 something days, I really haven't kept track. I keep reading about in early soberiety emotions run amock. I haven't felt anything really, just tired if that's an emotion. Is this normal, or am i just wierd? Just seem to be going through the day to day motions with no feelings at all. Is it because i haven't kept track of my sober days, or something else?
I don't get cravings either just that voice in my head but that's easy enough to tune out. So is this what its like to be sober, just i guess you could say feeling flat.

biminiblue

I'd say, good for you!

I was really touchy about everything people said to me for the first month.

I would have rather had your experience. I kept saying, "I feel so raw." That is how I can best describe what it was like. I used alcohol to numb my emotions. I didn't like it one bit when they came back.

Dee74

Everyone's experience will always be slightly different I think.
If it's not been a problem for you, that's great news 2wheelterror

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Fluffer

I'd say that's pretty similar to my situation. But I was never a daily drinker like a lot of people here. I wasn't in an emotionally extreme place while I was drinking. But honestly I do miss some of the ups and downs of the weekly drinking cycle. (well, not the downs).

2Wheelterror

It just seems strange to me thats all. I read the threads on here of people with emotions all out of wack. Just tonight i stopped at a coworkers place to help him with his truck and he offered me a beer. I told him no thanks i quit drinking. I don't get it there was no feeling of oh crap there's alcohol here, it was just something i didnt want. I was a daily drinker and I'm not trying to be mean to anyone here, but for me drinking is no longer an option and it really isn't that difficult to say no.

Am i missing something here? Should it be more difficult to stay sober.

Nonsensical

That's like asking if I should be taller. I am the height I am and it won't change.

Everyone has their own reaction to it. Be content that yours is more muted by comparison.

trachemys

It's different for everyone. If my memory is good, the majority of people that quit drinking just...quit. No AA, no support group, nothing. They just quit and don't drink again.

advbike

What Trach says.. most of those who are here are, in my opinion, those who have experienced difficulty with quitting. I was also a daily, but somewhat moderate drinker (3-4/day), and it was not that hard for me physically, but the emotional pull of alcohol was strong. This site really helped reinforce my decision. That said, I didn't experience much of the emotional ups and downs. We're all different.

Thepatman

Same as others, everyone is different. When you count your blessings next time, add this to your list!

2Wheelterror

Interesting i thought it would be more difficult. The only other time i quit drinking i was lets say on vacation from society. I'm grateful its not difficult, its kinda like a switch flipped in my head. Drinking is something i don't do kinda like stick a fork in an electrical outlet. If i do either its gonna hurt so its not something im gonna do.

trachemys

During my vacation I worked in the kitchen.

2Wheelterror

I was in laundry. That pic reminds me of ren and stimpy, don't whiz on the electric fence.

Jambo1979

My problem was never quitting drinking .....it was staying quit. Then as i learned to live in sobriety i found that i was left pretty emotionally raw and emotionally immature. I found this out through time as i experienced different things in life without any anastaetic to numb my emotions. For me its an ongoing learning curve and im gradually getting better at living life and facing its struggles without blocking stuff out.
Just keep doing what your doing, you wont feel flat, sobriety is a great life with new perspectives of your life being made transparent each and every day.....
Much love to you my sober friend

least

Be glad you're not on the roller coaster. And you never know when it might hit you. Enjoy your sobriety.

Mikie9

It's flat until you find other things to excite you. Getting drunk or high is an adrenaline rush. It is progressive because it takes more and more for your body to get excited about a rush. When it is gone you become flat. Find some things to get that rush and you won't think about drinking at all, and wonder why you ever did it

A couple of months ago in my early days of this quit I got tired of feeling flat. So I jumped out of an airplane.... best buzz of my life lol. I won't be doing that again though

Find other things to excite you. Before you started drinking you had them I bet.

sugarbear1

We're all different, but we often experience similar things but at different times in sobriety.

Arbor

Yes it takes a long time to get rid of that blah. Twenty days is excellent work, but some folks can go through emotional states 2-3 months in even.

2Wheelterror

Now that I'm thinking about it, I'm not sure if its the winter or sobriety that's making that blah state. The winter is kinda boring, since its shovel this and shovel that.
Once spring is here i will be able to get out and enjoy things again. Right now I'm kinda in waiting mode so maybe that's what is making the flat feeling.

trachemys

As you go on sober, emotion will return. I'm sometimes overwhelmed by feelings. At the root of it all is gratitude.

2Wheelterror

Ok i get its too early in sobreity for feelings to come back, my question has been answered thanks everyone .