Angry at hubby for drinking
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Angry at hubby for drinking
I am 7 weeks sober. Drank everyday, couldn't just have one, blackouts, etc.
My husband on the other hand is not like me at all. Rarely drinks, can have 1 and be done, etc.
He has a monthly poker game with the guys, and today he is hungover.
I am so angry at him. I want to get stuff done around the house, etc. I don't feel like dealing with his hangover and desire to nap for the day while I take care of the kids, etc.
Why am I sooooooo angry?? I feel like I am more angry than normal.
Any ideas?
My husband on the other hand is not like me at all. Rarely drinks, can have 1 and be done, etc.
He has a monthly poker game with the guys, and today he is hungover.
I am so angry at him. I want to get stuff done around the house, etc. I don't feel like dealing with his hangover and desire to nap for the day while I take care of the kids, etc.
Why am I sooooooo angry?? I feel like I am more angry than normal.
Any ideas?
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Now you know how he felt after your binges, right? You're anger is probably misplaced. You're angry because you can't drink responsibly and have fun with alcohol like most people can. I'm angry too. But it's bettt than being a hopeless drunk slowly killing myself.
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yep. maybe resentment. i think a hangover once in awhile is acceptable for those who dont start doing damage to their lives.
just a couple questions that may help you frame this: How many hangovers did he put up with you having? did he cut you a little slack?
if i could go out, whoop it up and have a hangover 3 or four times a year, i would still be drinking. -but for me it was three or four times a week, unfortunately.
last time my wife was hungover, i gave her a vitamin and some juice, had a "me" day and thanked myself for not having one also. i used it as a good reminder of what im missing. LOL!
just a couple questions that may help you frame this: How many hangovers did he put up with you having? did he cut you a little slack?
if i could go out, whoop it up and have a hangover 3 or four times a year, i would still be drinking. -but for me it was three or four times a week, unfortunately.
last time my wife was hungover, i gave her a vitamin and some juice, had a "me" day and thanked myself for not having one also. i used it as a good reminder of what im missing. LOL!
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I am married to a normie, too, and for the most part, I am eternally grateful. I suspect I would find it extremely difficult to deal with a spouse's alcoholism while maintaining my own sobriety.
But there times I feel twinges of resentment because normalcy is so easy, so basic for him. Those twinges of resentment are my problem, though, and I have to recognize it and deal with it as another aspect and part of my recovery efforts.
Congratulations on seven weeks of sobriety, Suzieq; you are doing really well.
But there times I feel twinges of resentment because normalcy is so easy, so basic for him. Those twinges of resentment are my problem, though, and I have to recognize it and deal with it as another aspect and part of my recovery efforts.
Congratulations on seven weeks of sobriety, Suzieq; you are doing really well.
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7 weeks is fantastic Suzie!! 
As others have mentioned, could be wanting that "moderate" relationship with alcohol? or maybe a case of a realisation of how unproductive and a waste of time alcohol really was, so when others do it's a frustration.
Hang in there!!
As others have mentioned, could be wanting that "moderate" relationship with alcohol? or maybe a case of a realisation of how unproductive and a waste of time alcohol really was, so when others do it's a frustration.
Hang in there!!
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