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Day 7 The start of day 7. I am feeling better mentally and physically and know I can make it through this 24 hour period. As I get further away from the addiction I am realizing how much it began to change me throughout the years. Things I never would have accepted as morally acceptable, became acceptable. Both in my personal life and marriage. As I have mentioned before, my wife has kicked me out of the house. What advice do people have for dealing with family that you have hurt deeply during your addiction throughout the recovery process? |
Keep it up, friend! You can do it!! |
Good for you for getting through your first week! I think many of us have hurt the people who love us and it's often really difficult to deal with those feelings in early recovery. For me, I wanted them to understand me and I wanted things to be fixed. Of course, it doesn't work that way. Words were no longer sufficient. I needed to show them through my actions that I was changing. And, that took a lot of patience on my part. |
Congrats on day 7 :) As for dealing with people who've been hurt by your drinking... it takes time. It will take a while to earn their trust again. My advice is to focus on staying sober. Hopefully your wife will see the changes in you and reconsider. |
Congrats on day 7, way to go! |
Day 7 is fantastic!! Keep it going Beddy!! :scoregood |
Well done on seven days. Keep marching forward. Taking the time to work on your sobriety. In the beginning it is crucial to heal yourself by continuing forward. Taking action. Anna is right. We all want to explain ourselves and be forgiven but it's not that easy. I'm an alcoholic as is my husband. He is also an addict and he's currently on a bad relapse. I will be asking him to leave. He has done this in the past so its nothing new. He has done a lot of things that are beyond the pale. And expected instant forgiveness. "Look! I quit! Things are all better now." It doesn't quite work that way because trust, once broken, takes a very long time to mend. Your wife is probably exhausted. Mentally and physically. She needs time to heal too. The best thing you can do is not pushing her. Work on you. Heal yourself. Grow better and stronger. She will see that. If you have been drinking and quitting over and over, she will also know if you are pulling her leg. Words will not cut it now. I've made too many promises which I've broken. My husband certainly has done so. Why will I be asking him to leave? I hear his promises and seen no action. Well done, again, on seven days. I know what an accomplishment that is. Keep going. And I'm sorry if what I said is harsh but I've been on the other side. |
Awesome job on a week sober beddy |
Originally Posted by Anna
(Post 5187151)
Good for you for getting through your first week! I think many of us have hurt the people who love us and it's often really difficult to deal with those feelings in early recovery. For me, I wanted them to understand me and I wanted things to be fixed. Of course, it doesn't work that way. Words were no longer sufficient. I needed to show them through my actions that I was changing. And, that took a lot of patience on my part. |
No what you said makes absolute perfect sense in every way. Thank you! |
Originally Posted by Ruby2
(Post 5187518)
Well done on seven days. Keep marching forward. Taking the time to work on your sobriety. In the beginning it is crucial to heal yourself by continuing forward. Taking action. Anna is right. We all want to explain ourselves and be forgiven but it's not that easy. I'm an alcoholic as is my husband. He is also an addict and he's currently on a bad relapse. I will be asking him to leave. He has done this in the past so its nothing new. He has done a lot of things that are beyond the pale. And expected instant forgiveness. "Look! I quit! Things are all better now." It doesn't quite work that way because trust, once broken, takes a very long time to mend. Your wife is probably exhausted. Mentally and physically. She needs time to heal too. The best thing you can do is not pushing her. Work on you. Heal yourself. Grow better and stronger. She will see that. If you have been drinking and quitting over and over, she will also know if you are pulling her leg. Words will not cut it now. I've made too many promises which I've broken. My husband certainly has done so. Why will I be asking him to leave? I hear his promises and seen no action. Well done, again, on seven days. I know what an accomplishment that is. Keep going. And I'm sorry if what I said is harsh but I've been on the other side. |
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