Relationships in early recovery Are a bad idea right? I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months and I'm not sure I'm strong enough to continue. My default in the past would be to drink when stuff got tough and I can't afford for that to happen now. |
It all depends on how committed you are.If you never drink again who knows how far this relationship could go?Good luck! |
I could not have done it, Lizella. D |
Make Sobriety your priority Lizella, don't compromise on that for anything or anyone!! |
You can slow it down at any time. Does this person know you're in early sobriety? |
Yeah he knows and he's very supportive. But I'm just learning how to deal with emotions sober and should probably do that alone first. |
Well, it's always your choice. If he's a good guy and he's understanding of your sobriety and the emotional ups and downs, why not keep seeing him? You don't have to think 30 years ahead, just today. I understand the emotional roller coaster, I really do. Is he making comments about it that are bothering you? Or is there something else about him that is making you uncomfortable? |
Hi Lizella, Ditto what Bimini said. I would have found it hard to do but everyone is different. Keep your sobriety first and foremost and the rest will follow. |
Originally Posted by Lizella
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Yeah he knows and he's very supportive. But I'm just learning how to deal with emotions sober and should probably do that alone first. What I usually suggest to people here: why not just be friends for a while if you have doubts? You don't need to put a name on it. Get to know each-other, do things together etc without anything serious, see how you feel. If he is really supportive and understanding, he may not want to rush it for you. |
Go with your "sober" gut instincts. Keep your sobriety first. |
Originally Posted by Lizella
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Yeah he knows and he's very supportive. But I'm just learning how to deal with emotions sober and should probably do that alone first. If you're feeling stressed/pressured - whatever it is you're feeling...maybe take a few steps back. |
I personally try to keep life simple when I'm in early recovery. Anyway, if this guy is supportive and doesn't have any problem with alcohol.. I don't see the problem. Obviously.. if you see that the relation is making you pull towards the drinking, then you should prioritize sobriety. Have a good day. |
I got sober completly on my own made my sobriety stronger didnt have to worry about anything but my sobriety & bills cooking cleaning etc |
In a recovery outpatient program I was in, they said no relationship changes for 1 year. But love really is not logical so take that with a grain of salt (no tequila). |
Thank you for all of responses. Definitely given me stuff to think about. |
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