Dee74

More from our SR frontpages...

6 Lies Addicts Need To Stop Telling Themselves

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PurpleKnight

The new front page is awesome!!

biminiblue

Yep. Agree! The front page is a great resource. Plus it hopefully tickles peoples curiosity to check out the forums.

Dee74

The front page does have a lot of good articles now, but I'm not in the PR department

just thought the article was a good one for this forum

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EndGameNYC

Just the six?

Dee74

I didn't write the article

I had a lot more - 'this is just a phase'...'my circumstances are not like most peoples' and 'I feel really good now after a few days sobriety - can I really have that big a problem then?' all come to mind.

Feel free to add more

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EndGameNYC

"If I can just continue to hide my drinking, everything will be okay."

Carlotta

Good one Dee
That really struck home
1. “People only want to hear about my success.”
I have become better at reaching out and I have a couple of dear friends I confide in (on SR and in real life). I still pressure myself a lot to be part of the solution and hide my vulnerabilities though. Well, it s progress not perfection.

Dee74

That was a big one for me too Carlotta - it really got enmeshed in my sometimes huge ego, against a frequently small self esteem.

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Soberwolf

Thank you D

march2314

"I can have a couple on special occasions"
"As long as I don't drink alone or to blot out my emotions I'll be fine"

Ridiculous really . I don't even like the sensation of 'not there yet ' that I get from a couple .

Ethos23

That' awesome. Thanks for sharing.

Cathryn2001

Thanks for the link.
The other BS self-talk i also used:

• I go to work everyday . . . . I couldn't possibly have a problem.
• I'm a grown-up so I get to do whatever I want.
• Everybody drinks a lot/like I do.

I've been sober for a year and a half, and I've spent a lot of that time realizing just how much i had let my delusional thinking stand in the way of a really good life. I've worked hard to contradict each of the lies I told myself--I'm entitled to ask for help. I'm allowed to be imperfect. My feelings won't kill me (nor will not getting what i want). Being a grown-up is about making "growth," not acting like an entitled child. Not everybody drinks like I did (and even if they do, that doesn't make it okay and their behaviors are absolutely none.of.my.business).