should I? shouldn't I?
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should I? shouldn't I?
I'm not even thinking of drinking......so no worries there.
Yes I'm divorced, my X-husband has not had a drink for 2 months, myself a little over 10 months sober, my son is going away for an evening with the Boy Scouts.
Let me be honest, I miss the interaction with people. I don't like groups. Just sit back watch movies ect. I'd like to ask him to spend the evening with me. Just sitting back. But I'm not really sure about his drinking. I remember awhile back him needing cig. and asking me to drive him. Then we got to the gas station and he came out with a whiskey bottle. If I new that was what he wanted, I would have never drove him. I guess we all learn.
I don't want to invite him over and have him trick me into getting him booze.
He is now about 30 minutes away ( I would have to go get him). He has enough brains ( ha-ha) to wait till we get in my neck of the woods before he asks. That way I would have to drive him all the way back if I don't. I'm not sure what would happen. I'm not even sure if he would still want to drink.
I think I answered my own question. BAD IDEA!!!
I guess I will rent a movie by myself....no alcohol
Yes I'm divorced, my X-husband has not had a drink for 2 months, myself a little over 10 months sober, my son is going away for an evening with the Boy Scouts.
Let me be honest, I miss the interaction with people. I don't like groups. Just sit back watch movies ect. I'd like to ask him to spend the evening with me. Just sitting back. But I'm not really sure about his drinking. I remember awhile back him needing cig. and asking me to drive him. Then we got to the gas station and he came out with a whiskey bottle. If I new that was what he wanted, I would have never drove him. I guess we all learn.
I don't want to invite him over and have him trick me into getting him booze.
He is now about 30 minutes away ( I would have to go get him). He has enough brains ( ha-ha) to wait till we get in my neck of the woods before he asks. That way I would have to drive him all the way back if I don't. I'm not sure what would happen. I'm not even sure if he would still want to drink.
I think I answered my own question. BAD IDEA!!!
I guess I will rent a movie by myself....no alcohol
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I made some new friends who supported my recovery airwick. Is that a possibility for you - are there social groups, sporting groups, churches or volunteering groups in your community?
Even someone as shy as me can deal with meeting a few new folks
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Even someone as shy as me can deal with meeting a few new folks
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Could you maybe have a really honest conversation beforehand and say you would love to spend some time together but you really don't want to be around alcohol right now and want to know beforehand that he won't be drinking as if so you can't do it? At least that way if he asks you to stop off you can refuse as you've been totally honest beforehand xx
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Hey airwick -- your gut seems like it knows. I like Jadedgirl's advice, but I say wait to take it until sometime when you're not feeling lonely -- this might be a vulnerable night, with the AV lurking behind something that should be simple. Play it safe and you won't have to worry about regretting something or bearing new resentments later.
And I agree w/Dee -- maybe you're getting ready to stretch yourself socially?
And I agree w/Dee -- maybe you're getting ready to stretch yourself socially?
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