I'd rather come crawling back than be alone
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Join Date: Jul 2013
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I'd rather come crawling back than be alone
I've now tried each and every way to make moderation work. It just doesn't.
I'm tired and depressed but I'd rather be present here now than suffer alone and silently.
I'm tired and depressed but I'd rather be present here now than suffer alone and silently.
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Join Date: Jan 2013
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No need to crawl, partner. Many of us have tried every which way to make moderation work. That it won't work for us is a hard lesson for some of us to learn.
The good news is that sobriety works just dandy!
The good news is that sobriety works just dandy!
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Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: UK (England)
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Welcome back, Alphabet. I tried every way imaginable to moderate my drinking and it never worked. Making peace with the fact that i can't drink, and taking the option completely off the table enabled me to get better. You have lots of support here...wish you the very best.
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I know I can do this. I'm just upset with myself that I let it get so bad again.
I've got a new job, I'm generally very happy and upbeat. I noticed that I was slipping and didn't press the brakes until it was too late. It's just not worth it.
Time to start going to AA.
I've got a new job, I'm generally very happy and upbeat. I noticed that I was slipping and didn't press the brakes until it was too late. It's just not worth it.
Time to start going to AA.
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Sonoran Desert & Southeast Asia
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I moderated for years.. tightly controlling it, logging my drinks, switching to dessert after a few glasses of wine, etc. It took a massive effort and my life still sucked. Still lonely, bored, caught in my obsessions and dreams, living a life of quiet desperation. I finally gave it up and wish I'd done it 10 years earlier.
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Georgia
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I remember hearing in meetings that moderation wasn't an option and didn't work. When I was actively drinking again and knowing in my heart that my drinking was a problem, I was convinced that I was "not like those other people" and that if I just found the right formula, my drinking would stop spiraling out of control. As you know, there is no formula. Moderation does not work for alcoholics. Maybe for those who believe they are Problem Drinkers moderation might work; but not for Alcoholics. Acceptance, my friend, of being an alcoholic was what started me on the path to sobriety. Glad you are done the losing battle and moving on with your life.
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Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Canada
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I was just thinking about you the other day!
You were the first one to reach out to me when I first came!
Super glad to see you back!
Xoxo
My moderation techniques don't ever seem to turn out like I imagine them too
You were the first one to reach out to me when I first came!
Super glad to see you back!
Xoxo
My moderation techniques don't ever seem to turn out like I imagine them too
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 508
Time to stop and stay stopped?
AVRT helped me when I tried everything else and couldn't get it to work.
Binge queen me, months sober and then throw it away for just 1 drink, ok 2 drinks.
1 drink, for me, and a lot of others here, always leads to more drinks eventually.
Welcome back & I hope you find your route to recovery soon.
Stop and stay stopped.
It could be the best choice to make, for my(your) life, in (your) life.
Driving my wagon of hope through beautiful views on my road to myself
AVRT helped me when I tried everything else and couldn't get it to work.
Binge queen me, months sober and then throw it away for just 1 drink, ok 2 drinks.
1 drink, for me, and a lot of others here, always leads to more drinks eventually.
Welcome back & I hope you find your route to recovery soon.
Stop and stay stopped.
It could be the best choice to make, for my(your) life, in (your) life.
Driving my wagon of hope through beautiful views on my road to myself
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 5,937
Welcome back, A! The bad news is that moderation isn't a realistic option. The good news is that abstinence simply feels better. I have no interest in drinking in moderation, and if I'm being honest I never did. I always drank to get drunk, every time. There simply is no pleasure for me in having "just a couple". Since I didn't want moderation when I drank I certainly don't want it now!
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