Hello again.
Hello again.
This is my first post since July of last year. I wasn't ready to commit to sobriety at that time. I wanted to learn how to moderate successfully, but moderation is something I am not capable of, so here I am again. I haven't had a drink in 25 days. Taking my sobriety one day at a time, one moment at a time, seems to be very helpful. Muting the voice of alcohol (which was the voice of a liar) has helped me begin to address ongoing and new issues. This is not an easy path, but I believe it can be worthwhile.
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This is my first post since July of last year. I wasn't ready to commit to sobriety at that time. I wanted to learn how to moderate successfully, but moderation is something I am not capable of, so here I am again. I haven't had a drink in 25 days. Taking my sobriety one day at a time, one moment at a time, seems to be very helpful. Muting the voice of alcohol (which was the voice of a liar) has helped me begin to address ongoing and new issues. This is not an easy path, but I believe it can be worthwhile.
philly76,
I've found that traditional methods (specifically AA) don't work for me, either. Instead, I deliberately plan out my days. On a white board For example, I'll wake up around 6 or 7 tomorrow morning, (try to) meditate for a few minutes, shower, make coffee and breakfast, catch up on e-mail, and go to work. And I write all of that down, even though it seems automatic. While I'm on a break at work or in the minutes before I clock out, I figure out whether I need to accomplish anything before I go home (pick up groceries, stop at the bank, get a new work shirt, etc.). If it's necessary, I'll run the errand then go straight home. I was a bar drinker, so avoiding bars is my challenge. I know I don't HAVE to stop at a bar on my way home. Or on the way to work. Or ever. I could CHOOSE to, but I don't HAVE to. I choose to go straight home and make a decent meal for dinner or watch a movie or start that book I've been meaning to read or blog a little. For me, it's about...intention and details. What are you struggling with the most?
I've found that traditional methods (specifically AA) don't work for me, either. Instead, I deliberately plan out my days. On a white board For example, I'll wake up around 6 or 7 tomorrow morning, (try to) meditate for a few minutes, shower, make coffee and breakfast, catch up on e-mail, and go to work. And I write all of that down, even though it seems automatic. While I'm on a break at work or in the minutes before I clock out, I figure out whether I need to accomplish anything before I go home (pick up groceries, stop at the bank, get a new work shirt, etc.). If it's necessary, I'll run the errand then go straight home. I was a bar drinker, so avoiding bars is my challenge. I know I don't HAVE to stop at a bar on my way home. Or on the way to work. Or ever. I could CHOOSE to, but I don't HAVE to. I choose to go straight home and make a decent meal for dinner or watch a movie or start that book I've been meaning to read or blog a little. For me, it's about...intention and details. What are you struggling with the most?
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philly76,
I've found that traditional methods (specifically AA) don't work for me, either. Instead, I deliberately plan out my days. On a white board For example, I'll wake up around 6 or 7 tomorrow morning, (try to) meditate for a few minutes, shower, make coffee and breakfast, catch up on e-mail, and go to work. And I write all of that down, even though it seems automatic. While I'm on a break at work or in the minutes before I clock out, I figure out whether I need to accomplish anything before I go home (pick up groceries, stop at the bank, get a new work shirt, etc.). If it's necessary, I'll run the errand then go straight home. I was a bar drinker, so avoiding bars is my challenge. I know I don't HAVE to stop at a bar on my way home. Or on the way to work. Or ever. I could CHOOSE to, but I don't HAVE to. I choose to go straight home and make a decent meal for dinner or watch a movie or start that book I've been meaning to read or blog a little. For me, it's about...intention and details. What are you struggling with the most?
I've found that traditional methods (specifically AA) don't work for me, either. Instead, I deliberately plan out my days. On a white board For example, I'll wake up around 6 or 7 tomorrow morning, (try to) meditate for a few minutes, shower, make coffee and breakfast, catch up on e-mail, and go to work. And I write all of that down, even though it seems automatic. While I'm on a break at work or in the minutes before I clock out, I figure out whether I need to accomplish anything before I go home (pick up groceries, stop at the bank, get a new work shirt, etc.). If it's necessary, I'll run the errand then go straight home. I was a bar drinker, so avoiding bars is my challenge. I know I don't HAVE to stop at a bar on my way home. Or on the way to work. Or ever. I could CHOOSE to, but I don't HAVE to. I choose to go straight home and make a decent meal for dinner or watch a movie or start that book I've been meaning to read or blog a little. For me, it's about...intention and details. What are you struggling with the most?
I'm struggling with passing the liquor store on my way home. I have to keep myself occupied until they close or it's really temping to grab a bottle of wine "just so I have it." Logging the intention and details, as you describe it, would be a good way for me to look at a written piece of paper and realize what a jack *** I'm being if it says "liquor store" on my schedule.
I'm not good talking with big groups. I can talk one-on-one about drinking, and I'd probably see a therapist if I could afford it. This seems like a good idea for someone like me, thanks
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