Totally Lost
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Totally Lost
Hi,
I have recently taken the decision to go sober and it has now been 2 weeks since my last drink. I'm not even sure I am in the right place because I wouldn't say I crave alcohol, but whenever I drink I find it impossible to control. Always end up losing large chunks of the night and often do things which could have a huge impact on my life or hurt those I love. This results in a lot of fear, guilt, shame and a massive downer which lasts for the best part of a week.
Going sober has coincided with the break up of a relationship and since my friends' social lives all revolve around drink I currently feel very lonely. I don't want to fall back into binge drinking on the weekends because I know it does me a great deal of harm and having given up drink for a couple months at a time a few times over the past few years, I know I feel so much more confident and happy without it.
This time though I feel like without it I have no social life and finding another relationship will be that much harder.
I have recently taken the decision to go sober and it has now been 2 weeks since my last drink. I'm not even sure I am in the right place because I wouldn't say I crave alcohol, but whenever I drink I find it impossible to control. Always end up losing large chunks of the night and often do things which could have a huge impact on my life or hurt those I love. This results in a lot of fear, guilt, shame and a massive downer which lasts for the best part of a week.
Going sober has coincided with the break up of a relationship and since my friends' social lives all revolve around drink I currently feel very lonely. I don't want to fall back into binge drinking on the weekends because I know it does me a great deal of harm and having given up drink for a couple months at a time a few times over the past few years, I know I feel so much more confident and happy without it.
This time though I feel like without it I have no social life and finding another relationship will be that much harder.
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Welcome and good for you for recognizing that alcohol is having a negative impact on your life. Congratulations on 2 weeks sober.
I think most of us have to make some big changes in our lives in recovery. Maybe this is the time to try something new - volunteer work, sports, a hobby - something that will enable you to meet new (sober) people.
I think most of us have to make some big changes in our lives in recovery. Maybe this is the time to try something new - volunteer work, sports, a hobby - something that will enable you to meet new (sober) people.
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Originally Posted by say9 
whenever I drink I find it impossible to control. Always end up losing large chunks of the night and often do things which could have a huge impact on my life or hurt those I love. This results in a lot of fear, guilt, shame and a massive downer which lasts for the best part of a week.
There are many people in the world that don't drink, to us though we think everyone drinks because we drink, but those people still have happy lives and have relationships, we sometimes give alcohol to much importance and place it at the centre of our lives, despite what misery it causes us, but alcohol is not the centre of the universe!!
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Thanks Anna. That is what I've spent a lot of my time these past couple of weeks doing, trying to find something to replace drinking. Just seems to be a big barrier thrown up when it comes to choosing something and taking the plunge to try it.
It has crept into my mind that I'm maybe being a bit too dramatic in giving up altogether, but then I worry that if I continue on the road I was on I could only be one binge away from really doing some damage to my life.
It has crept into my mind that I'm maybe being a bit too dramatic in giving up altogether, but then I worry that if I continue on the road I was on I could only be one binge away from really doing some damage to my life.
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Welcome Say9 nice to meet you
I volenteered in early sobriety at my local hospital i done 2 services at AA
There will be hard days but they will fade with sober time and you can live your free without the need for alcohol & the chaos that it brings
Awesome job on 2 weeks sober
I volenteered in early sobriety at my local hospital i done 2 services at AA
There will be hard days but they will fade with sober time and you can live your free without the need for alcohol & the chaos that it brings
Awesome job on 2 weeks sober
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