Dozen times trying to remain dry, dozen fails
 

Hi everyone. Never did this before (forum chatting) so patience please. I just need to get feedback from men/women alike that might be experiencing what I am at this point in my life. about 3 years ago I was diagnosed with alcoholic hepatitis since then I have abstained and binged till yesterday at 7 in the morning. I have been more sober than wasted that's for sure but I need to stop! Im pregnant, and I have a wonderful husband and 2 great kids. I feel so ashamed. Im worried about all kinds of stuff and I swear I'm going crazy. I have resesrched continously since I got sick. Rifht now I just got off of a 5 day binge. My back hurts, my stool looks a little like bile. I dont need anyone to tell me to go to the er all I'm asking is if this sounds pretty normal for my idiotic circumstance. This has happened with past binges but like I said, it would be great to see if anyone else has had these experiences.

Thanks guys

if you are pregnant and drinking heavily i'm going to suggest an urgent gynae appointment where you discuss this with your doctor. i'm not judging you - but you need to be honest with your doctor about this.

you say you just came off a 5 day binge. what's your plan for not picking up a drink once you feel physically better? i couldn't go an hour without a drink at my worst - i'm nearly 9 months sober and if i can do it, you can, but it takes work. i'm not even remotely out of the woods in terms of sober time, but it feels genuinely awesome.

there is life without alcohol. i promise. but you must please see a doctor, and come up with a plan for at least the remainder of your pregnancy.

please, please be well.

Welcome,Being pg would be a great time to get sober,I can't think of a better reason to stop drinking.I would ask for some medical help due to your condition.

Since you are pregnant, I'd recommend seeing your dr asap to discuss what has been happening and to get his/her advice on the best way to stay sober during your pregnancy. This is no longer about you. It's now about your unborn child.

This is our sticky on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-syndrome.html

I agree getting a doctor involved to help is important.

Then, I'm gonna suggest you stop trying to 'remain dry' and start focusing on 'embracing sobriety'.

There is a big difference, in my experience.

Remaining dry is a waiting game and a 'sentence'

Embracing sobriety is a liberating door that opens onto a new life that includes challenges, but also deeper meaning and joy than you've ever known.

Welcome.

Please get some medical help ASAP.

I also echo the talking to your Dr. ASAP and letting him/her know what has been going on.
and stick around here for support :)

A very important key given to you right here!! Not drinking because you shouldn't doesn't work as well as not drinking because you don't drink alcohol are two distinctly different mindsets. Choose the latter for success, IMHO.

Hi.
I’m sorry for your situation and agree with the others.

What’s happening here is child abuse of the worst type, this can endanger the child for life if it has one!

Cut out the self centered BS and get help immediately and end all the wishy washy reasons to drink.

I know this is harsh but something needs your attention NOW, not when you feel like it.

If you have a disease attend to it!

BE WELL

I agree with above posts and what kinda shocked me a little if I'm honest is that the mention of pregnancy seemed to just happen to be mentioned alongside the husband and kids. Hun if your pregnant you could be doing that child a huge amount of damage. Regardless of whether your symptoms are normal or not is irrespective and I think you DO need someone to tell you to go to the ER. If not for you for your unborn child. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but sometimes you have to say it as it is!
My friend spoke very honestly with me nearly a week ago and that was the final 'a ha' moment that something had to change.
You need to do something about this now!
Good luck x

See your doctor now and be honest about your drinking. You can do so much damage to the unborn child so early in pregnancy. :(

Idaten please swallow your pride as well as your shame and go see a doctor.

Health is so fragile, please don't leave it to self-speculation.

If i wrote what you wrote what would you advise me ?

Please please get help.

I'm nearly 6 months pregnant and I thank god everyday I'm sober.

Don't put your baby or yourself any further at risk.

Some really great advice here idaten05

You have to not only consider yourself but your baby now - please... do see your Dr and be honest about your situation.

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Welcome to the Forum idaten05!! :wave:

Thank you everyone for your comments. I do regularly see my obgyn and I have an appt next week. I need the harshness and the concerns hand in hand. I will not give exuses for my behaviors and I am woman enough to admit my faults. I thought I'd try something new this time to help me find and except my life in sobriety. I dont agree with the child abuse comment for I do know it could be a potential danger to my child but that is why I'm reaching out for support to help with something that has such a grip on me at times that I dont even understand. Please keep the comments comimg it really does help.

It's good that you will be seeing your obgyn dr next week and talking about your alcoholism. I hope that you keep your unborn child's care your priority. If possible, inpatient treatment could be a good choice, and it would take away the option for you to drink.

Good to have you with us idaten05. I hope you'll keep posting and let us know how you're doing. We care about you (and your baby).

This could be really great! I just wanted to add to my previous post that during I had approx. 4- 5 drinks 24 hour period and I havent hwd another in 2 days. Thank you again everyone. Before this I hadnt had a drink after I found out. I'm 13 weeks now. I'll do whatever it takes to remain sober! Damn it I can do it!

I see 17 replies in this thread (to this point) and not a single one has mentioned AA. You have a very serious problem with alcohol and you need all the help you can get. It's time to find some meetings and make it part of your plan to stay sober. Not just for you, but for everyone in your family. Sorry to be blunt, but that's how I see it.

I wish you all the best.

Well done for going two days!! You CAN do this! When the drink has such a hold unfortunately it becomes more important than anything but u have such an amazing reason to focus on when the cravings hit. Keep posting x

I agree with awuh1, this is serious and needs a serious plan. You don't have time to mess around with relapses as another life is at stake. AA, inpatient, outpatient with AA, some plan that will give you both support and accountability. Your baby, your children, your health are at risk. Grab onto to every lifeline tossed your way.

My comments still stand as it is abuse without a softer meaning. My wife was a nurse for 12 years at an inner city hospitals maternity unit and the results on children from drinking/drugging mothers are horrendous. Do a search on the effects.

When you have your Dr. appointment try to be totally honest with him/her.

Sorry but this post put me in a rage I haven’t experienced in a long time, probably because I’ve been around for a long time and seen so much of the wreckage alcohol has, will cause.

BE WELL
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I would go to a women's meeting and raise your hand when asked if there are any newcomers. You will be welcomed and get lots of attention and hopefully a phone list as it is tradition almost everywhere. Talking to another alcoholic is always helpful when the idea of a drink comes out of nowhere (and they do for 20 yr veterans too). Posting on SR has the same effect for me but sometimes I need FtoF. You know the leers you would get at a mixed meeting and it's sad even we can be so critical. The reason we are here is because alcohol trumps reason in all of us and not one can say they didn't compromise their own principals every time they drank and very often hurt themselves and others in this pursuit. I especially like the "I never drove drunk". Good for you. I gotta commend you on your courage to post. You really want this. You can do it!