mrjustin

Hi all, I feel like im grieving a bit afrer stopping drinking and bored dont really know what do do with myself. ?...

Foolsgold186

I felt the same when I first stopped drinking. I seriously thought my life was over. I had to make real changes to my lifestyle and it was a hard and sometimes lonely process. Gone were the weekly nights going to my pals for a "few bottles", weekends out drinking had to stop. Everything that was normal to me felt was being taken away and I hated it.

I for sure felt something had died - my horrific, mental, blackout, making an ass of myself days had!

Things are very different now, i had to change my life but its all been for the better. Over 6 months sober and my life is considerably better.

Hang in there, find new passions in life other than drink.

L x

MythOfSisyphus

It is indeed a process and I think we all feel that way in the beginning. It may be hard to believe but it gets better. Since I spend about 25 years drunk almost every day I didn't know how I would fill the time up. But I have! Now instead of being bored I'm in the situation where I don't have time for everything I want to do. Whooda thunk it!

MelindaFlowers

I was grieving the loss of alcohol. I realized though that I was grieving what alcohol did for me from 2004-2010. Back then I still kinda had an off switch and alcohol was fun. It was the highlight of my day. That is way in the past.

I have never grieved for what alcohol did for me 2011-2014. Daily hangovers which turned out to be withdrawal in hindsight, every day at work. Around 2013 alcohol stopped even giving me a buzz. I was a maintenance drinker in every sense of the term except I never progressed to the morning drink. Never missed work either but I was a maintenance drinker going through the motions, hungover/withdrawing every single day of the year. Nothing to miss about that. That is the ONLY box I can't check on the alcoholic tests. The morning drink. But boy was I SICK every morning.

It helped me to realize I was mourning something that was long gone. I lost my ability to drink for pleasure around 2010.

Mountainmanbob

If you can stay sober for a while, you will see where life is much easier without the booze added. This has proven to be especially true for alcoholics who have recovered.

If one is alcoholic ? It's truly best not to drink.

For me to cry or grieve over the loss of alcohol in my life,
is like missing hanging out with the devil.

MM

Jupiters

I've learned to embrace the feeling of "boredom" when I think back to the chaotic feeling that alcohol brought me. The anxiety, fear, guilt and shame are all feelings I don't miss, boredom I can do something about with new hobbies.
The "fun" drinking days were long over before I stopped. I try to remember that when I start fantasizing about it.
Hang in - it gets better, it really does. But we gotta put some effort in to make healthy changes as well.

Arbor

Grieving is normal for any loss of relationship. It's part of the process. Try to accept that and work through it. It takes a long time but you'll change.

Soberwolf

Hi MrJustin try this http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ething-do.html

Stay strong were not missing anything its a better life sober my friend