Holed up in bedroom
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Holed up in bedroom
As the title says im holed up in my marital bedroom, I can hear my children playing, my wife is slamming doors and cupboards, telling them how much of a looser there daddy is. My brain is racing overtime. I know im such a fool for ending up like this again. What do I do? I haven't got the strength to argue any more and besides she will not even talk to me.
I think I will just have to try and sleep and get a little stronger.
She is really playing with my head by ignoring me. But hey she has heard it all before I suppose.
I think I will just have to try and sleep and get a little stronger.
She is really playing with my head by ignoring me. But hey she has heard it all before I suppose.
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Ok... So that's a good place to start.
stay that way!!
It's really awful that you're being called names to your kids and you feel that you need to hole up in order to deal with it. I imagine that leaves you feeling hopeless.
Do you have any other options?
Why is she so upset?
stay that way!!It's really awful that you're being called names to your kids and you feel that you need to hole up in order to deal with it. I imagine that leaves you feeling hopeless.
Do you have any other options?
Why is she so upset?
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Been there mate.
I promised my wife hundreds of times, I'll sort it out, I'll stop, etc etc.
When I took no action, nothing changed.
I couldn't think my way out of drinking anymore than I could fly to the moon under my own steam.
How long have you been trying to stop or moderate your drinking?
I promised my wife hundreds of times, I'll sort it out, I'll stop, etc etc.
When I took no action, nothing changed.
I couldn't think my way out of drinking anymore than I could fly to the moon under my own steam.
How long have you been trying to stop or moderate your drinking?
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl 
Ok... So that's a good place to start.
stay that way!!
It's really awful that you're being called names to your kids and you feel that you need to hole up in order to deal with it. I imagine that leaves you feeling hopeless.
Do you have any other options?
Why is she so upset?
stay that way!!It's really awful that you're being called names to your kids and you feel that you need to hole up in order to deal with it. I imagine that leaves you feeling hopeless.
Do you have any other options?
Why is she so upset?
I feel so sorry for them having to deal with this.
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Originally Posted by Hawks
Been there mate.
I promised my wife hundreds of times, I'll sort it out, I'll stop, etc etc.
When I took no action, nothing changed.
I couldn't think my way out of drinking anymore than I could fly to the moon under my own steam.
How long have you been trying to stop or moderate your drinking?
I promised my wife hundreds of times, I'll sort it out, I'll stop, etc etc.
When I took no action, nothing changed.
I couldn't think my way out of drinking anymore than I could fly to the moon under my own steam.
How long have you been trying to stop or moderate your drinking?
Ive been trying to quit for the last 8 years.
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Been there too mate- I have had all sorts of extra stress from my partner whilst hiding in bed after another awful spree. It seems to much to bear but after some food and a good nights sleep you will feel strong enough to deal with the issue!!
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Maverick try to stay calm if the wife is angry at you dont react
dont make things worse at this point try like freeowl said to get to a mtn that will really really help
dont isolate have you got any aa friends you could call now would be a good time ?
stay close to SR drop a pm anytime 24h a day my friend
hang in there Maverick
dont make things worse at this point try like freeowl said to get to a mtn that will really really help
dont isolate have you got any aa friends you could call now would be a good time ?
stay close to SR drop a pm anytime 24h a day my friend
hang in there Maverick
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Originally Posted by mavrick
She is totally fed up with me stopping and starting and having to witness my drunken performances.
Ive been trying to quit for the last 8 years.
Ive been trying to quit for the last 8 years.
It's not good, of course, but try and see it from her point of view.
She has a husband whom she loves and she'll say anything at this point to try and force you to change.
The kids have a father they love and they are confused and probably don't understand why this is happening.
8 years is a long time to have tried to sort the booze problem out.
If you are anything like me, the harder you tried the worse it got right?
Like trying to grasp a handful of sand, tighter you squeeze, the more it slips through your hands.
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl
I'm not sure I'm following. You're sober now but there must have been a recent incident?
How about you get hold of a meeting schedule and get yourself to AA
How about you get hold of a meeting schedule and get yourself to AA
I think she has had enough of me for good.
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Hawks is onto it.
Maverick.... Now is the time to stop worrying a out what your wife thinks, what the outcome may be, whether she's given up for good or what makes she calls you.
Your #1 priority needs to be getting well.
Do you want that? Your comments suggest that you do....
Maverick.... Now is the time to stop worrying a out what your wife thinks, what the outcome may be, whether she's given up for good or what makes she calls you.
Your #1 priority needs to be getting well.
Do you want that? Your comments suggest that you do....
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Originally Posted by Hawks
Exactly, she's at the end of her rope with you. Trying desperately to get you to take action by resorting to name calling in front of the kids.
It's not good, of course, but try and see it from her point of view.
She has a husband whom she loves and she'll say anything at this point to try and force you to change.
The kids have a father they love and they are confused and probably don't understand why this is happening.
8 years is a long time to have tried to sort the booze problem out.
If you are anything like me, the harder you tried the worse it got right?
Like trying to grasp a handful of sand, tighter you squeeze, the more it slips through your hands.
It's not good, of course, but try and see it from her point of view.
She has a husband whom she loves and she'll say anything at this point to try and force you to change.
The kids have a father they love and they are confused and probably don't understand why this is happening.
8 years is a long time to have tried to sort the booze problem out.
If you are anything like me, the harder you tried the worse it got right?
Like trying to grasp a handful of sand, tighter you squeeze, the more it slips through your hands.
How did you manage to do it Hawks
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