Holed up in bedroom
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Originally Posted by mavrick 
Bingo! You've hit the nail on the head.
How did you manage to do it Hawks
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How did you manage to do it Hawks
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Drastic problems need drastic solutions.
If you can read the steps of AA and weigh up which scares you more...... The prospect of those steps or continuing on like you are??
You have your answer.
It's saved my life, my wife, my marriage and my family.
Not easy, but worth it, I promise you
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Originally Posted by Hawks
Well, I joined AA and took the steps.
Drastic problems need drastic solutions.
If you can read the steps of AA and weigh up which scares you more...... The prospect of those steps or continuing on like you are??
You have your answer.
It's saved my life, my wife, my marriage and my family.
Not easy, but worth it, I promise you
Marchia in Aeternum
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Mavrick, the first thing you do is crawl out of the bedroom on your hands and knees and beg your wife for forgiveness.
If you need help with detox, you go to the ER. Today, not Monday.
You see your doctor. Be honest. Take the help he offers.
Luck is not a factor. Get it done.
If you need help with detox, you go to the ER. Today, not Monday.
You see your doctor. Be honest. Take the help he offers.
Luck is not a factor. Get it done.
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mavrick, please ask your doctor about any Alcohol Treatment services in your town. i have been working with my local team for about a year now. i did an 8-week outpatient rehab with them (3 days a week) and have now moved onto aftercare. however, i have it written into my treatment plan that if i relapse i need rehab, and fast. they have the funding, so i would not have to pay.
i'm 8 months sober and believe me, when i was last drinking i couldn't go an hour without a drink. AA saved my life. the national helpline number is 0845 769 7555. you can also email them [email protected]
it took me a while to get sobriety to stick. but it has, this time and it can for you as well.
be well, and seek help. 8 years is a long time to struggle. just let go and ask for help. you'll be so glad you did.
i'm 8 months sober and believe me, when i was last drinking i couldn't go an hour without a drink. AA saved my life. the national helpline number is 0845 769 7555. you can also email them [email protected]
it took me a while to get sobriety to stick. but it has, this time and it can for you as well.
be well, and seek help. 8 years is a long time to struggle. just let go and ask for help. you'll be so glad you did.
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You said you are sober, but you are in bed....wife is helping the house and children. Why not get out of there and go help the wife with the house and children, regardless of whether or not she is speaking with you. Go participate in life, find an AA meeting and get there to find a sponsor; someone to guide you through those 12 steps.
my alcoholism is not being able to live without drinking; those 12 steps saved my life
sobriety is action, go start being active in life
my alcoholism is not being able to live without drinking; those 12 steps saved my life
sobriety is action, go start being active in life
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Originally Posted by trachemys
Mavrick, the first thing you do is crawl out of the bedroom on your hands and knees and beg your wife for forgiveness
Luck is not a factor. Get it done.
Luck is not a factor. Get it done.
Words are hollow at this stage.
Just keep your mouth shut and go with action.
I agree wholesale with trachemys second point though.
Get it done.
Ever heard the phrase "the harder I worked the luckier I got"?
Call the local AA office.... Action, show her you mean business this time.
Ask her to go to a first meeting with you, if she won't go, you go.
Either way, she'll believe it when she sees it.
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Originally Posted by mavrick
I have been taken through the 12 steps and I am familiar with AA.
We have a daily reprieve contingent upon our spiritual condition.
~sb
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I worked those 12 steps with thorough honesty and willingness and open-ness 3 times within 8 months, each time finding out more about me...
are you willing to work them again? act your way into a new way of living this time and continue to do it?
Rational Recovery, AVRT, SMART, Life Ring, SOS also have their own websites. Something has to click with you
are you willing to work them again? act your way into a new way of living this time and continue to do it?
Rational Recovery, AVRT, SMART, Life Ring, SOS also have their own websites. Something has to click with you
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Be totally honest with your Dr.
I was last week & she was brilliant.
Didn't feel all that wonderful sitting spilling my drinking activity to my Dr - but she was very understanding.
Most important is your sobriety, to you and to your family - like everyone says - actions speak louder than words.
Walk the walk my friend.
xx
I was last week & she was brilliant.
Didn't feel all that wonderful sitting spilling my drinking activity to my Dr - but she was very understanding.
Most important is your sobriety, to you and to your family - like everyone says - actions speak louder than words.
Walk the walk my friend.
xx
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Just said sorry to the wife and im going to sort this once and for all.
She said. "You're just a greedy bastard and the problem is yourself, you have no self control"
I knew she'd understand.
She said. "You're just a greedy bastard and the problem is yourself, you have no self control"
I knew she'd understand.
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Originally Posted by mavrick
I have been taken through the 12 steps and I am familiar with AA.
Marchia in Aeternum
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Originally Posted by mavrick
Just said sorry to the wife and im going to sort this once and for all.
She said. "You're just a greedy bastard and the problem is yourself, you have no self control"
I knew she'd understand.
She said. "You're just a greedy bastard and the problem is yourself, you have no self control"
I knew she'd understand.
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