PaulinaPolitely

THANK YOU.

"despair, anxiety and guilt..." Creating all of that, just because we are shy? Why?

We don't need to hurt ourselves anymore.

ubntubnt

Well, I don't think anyone goes into this knowing what the outcome will be. as someone on this site said "alcoholism is for someone else's family". For me, it just crept up silently over the years. Even when I knew that I was drinking dangerously the AV had a way of reassuring me that it would be ok or the realities and pressures of life came roaring back and distracted me from thinking about quitting. Then after a while it was just something that I did whenever I had free time....and then after a while longer I made more free time to accommodate it. Then a little while longer and all I could l see was the drink.

DuhDave

I think we want to abstain from putting our loved one's through anymore pain, because we suffer from the "despair, anxiety and guilt". I think that is where the "Shy" part comes from.

I think we are more in tune with the "Hurt" we put our loved one's through than we are given credit for. I know I am.

We just dont know how to express our deepest..."sympathy"...to the one's we have hurt. They dont want to hear it. Cant blame them.

DD

PaulinaPolitely

THANK YOU

for your brilliant summary and thoughts...

I too used alcohol for social bravery, then to escape, and all of the rest.

In the end alcohol will take your life.

It's worth examining "why", but first getting away from it will cure so much.