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Old 01-01-2015, 07:48 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Today is Day one for me!! I think this site will help me a lot. I have had a few day ones, but once I get to about 30 days I get the idea that I can have an occasional drink. The drink or two just puts me back to drinking every night again.

I promised myself that I would quit for the new year. I promised myself 2015 would be different. Today has been really hard. I know it will get easier.

I keep thinking that I should at least have one tonight so the withdraws will be less tomorrow. I am already trying to justify one more, but i am not going to do it. The excuses come and go from my mind all day. I am determined not to give in this time.
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Old 01-01-2015, 07:51 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I had around 7 ish weeks- I cant remember exactly how long bc I stopped counting. My downfall was hey I can have a few beers tonight. Then I didnt drink for a few days, then had another beer another night. Well eventually this led to more days drinking, and more beers in those days and finally drinking every night between 6-12 beers.

I realize I cant do that anymore. Its all or nothing.
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Old 01-01-2015, 07:53 PM   #3 (permalink)
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welcome stayingpositive - my opinion is that if you continue to have to alleviate withdrawal symptoms you will never stop. I would check in with a medical facility if you are having trouble.
I would see a doctor either way. good luck and WELCOME
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Old 01-01-2015, 07:58 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I have done this before. I usaully just get anxious and panicky for a few days. My mind is just telling me that its a reason to have just one. If anything really bad happens I will see a doctor, but I think I will be fine.
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Old 01-01-2015, 08:02 PM   #5 (permalink)
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We all know what u are going thru here. New years day is probably the most popular 'Day 1' of them all. Think ahead about how you remain sober for the next few weeks. I just started AA meetings twice a week, see a therapist, and use this site. This holiday season was my first sober one since I was a teenager. It can be lonely in sobriety but just realize that there is support out there.
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Old 01-01-2015, 08:40 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Old 01-01-2015, 09:10 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Welcome Stayingpositive. SR is a great place with wonderful resources. Open 24/7.
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Old 01-01-2015, 09:38 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Welcome! I think you will find lots of support here! :-)
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Old 01-01-2015, 10:37 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Hi Stayingpositive,

For years, I thought that someday I'd cut way back and drink like a normal person. During these years I drank heavily every single night and was hungover every single day. As time went on I thought that maybe I would only drink on New Years or my my birthday, ya know, once a year wouldn't hurt, right?

All that went out the window when I finally accepted that to have a happy and productive life, I needed to be a non-drinker. No alcohol, ever. I have found that it's actually much easier to not drink at all than to try and cut back or drink less. That never worked. And if I did drink less one or two nights, I would obsess over the amount I was drinking and always wishing that I could have more. So much stress!

I finally stopped when the drinking life became harder than not drinking at all. What a shock that [I]not [I]drinking is easier in every way. Waking up is easier. Work is easier. Cleaning the house is easier. Remembering to pay bills is easier.

Someone on here made a really good point today that two beers, hypothetically, offers no more pleasure to us than tomato juice because it doesn't get us drunk. I'm guessing you were like me and drank to get drunk. I drank to "check out," to numb myself. That wouldn't work with moderate drinking so I gave up the fight.

I'm looking forward to hearing more from you!
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Hi stayingpositive.

Glad you found us.

Have you heard of the AV (addictive voice) -that 's the little voice in your head that tells you it's ok to drink, or have just one.

I was told I needed a plan to keep sober. Some people just use SR for support, some go to AA, some use other recovery methods, but we do all have a plan.

Stick around my friend, and welcome to the family.
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Welcome stayingpositive

resist that one drink. If you're concerned about withdrawal why not see your Dr?

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Old 01-02-2015, 07:14 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Thank you for all the support!! I made it to day two!!
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