Getting over alcohol and having a life again.
Magsie
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
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Getting over alcohol and having a life again.
I've been stopped drinking just over 17 months now. I was a daily drinker, went to work, did voluntary work, put on the facade that I was a regular person but waiting to get home for my next drink.
I knew it was getting bad when I went to work and asked for a holiday day as I wasn't feeling well so I could go home and drink myself until my husband came home, then, as I thought, act normal, make tea and crash out on sofa rest of the evening. I did a lot worse than this but I didn't want to face up to stopping drinking, it was my life, I couldn't live without drinking, what would be the point.
HOW WRONG I WAS.
I found stopping a struggle and like a lot of people, had used the bottle rather than face up to reality. So I had to deal with problems without drink, I knew whatever, however I felt, I would not pick up. I went through days of ecstasy to days of stress and self loathing. I posted many a moans on here, that's for sure.
After a while the cravings for drink eased then realised I wasnt thinking about wanting a drink. As for learning to live again, life is good, I don't run away from problems, I face them and deal with them, like a grown up!
I've wrote this as I understand you may want to stop or maybe your spouse and family want you to stop, but unless you want it, you, yourself, even if it is to please your family in the beginning[B], IT IS WORTH IT.
Think of life without that prop, you can get in your car and drive anytime. You have no regrets from the night before, no blackouts and the list goes on.
Give it a go. We are all here to help each other. We all know what you've been through, we've been there. You want your life back? Start now, after a while there will be no looking back.
I knew it was getting bad when I went to work and asked for a holiday day as I wasn't feeling well so I could go home and drink myself until my husband came home, then, as I thought, act normal, make tea and crash out on sofa rest of the evening. I did a lot worse than this but I didn't want to face up to stopping drinking, it was my life, I couldn't live without drinking, what would be the point.
HOW WRONG I WAS.
I found stopping a struggle and like a lot of people, had used the bottle rather than face up to reality. So I had to deal with problems without drink, I knew whatever, however I felt, I would not pick up. I went through days of ecstasy to days of stress and self loathing. I posted many a moans on here, that's for sure.
After a while the cravings for drink eased then realised I wasnt thinking about wanting a drink. As for learning to live again, life is good, I don't run away from problems, I face them and deal with them, like a grown up!
I've wrote this as I understand you may want to stop or maybe your spouse and family want you to stop, but unless you want it, you, yourself, even if it is to please your family in the beginning[B], IT IS WORTH IT.
Think of life without that prop, you can get in your car and drive anytime. You have no regrets from the night before, no blackouts and the list goes on.
Give it a go. We are all here to help each other. We all know what you've been through, we've been there. You want your life back? Start now, after a while there will be no looking back.
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So true Mags , gotta grind out the bad days , staring at a wall being bored is better than picking up the drink . Congrats mags on your sober time.
Going to a NYE party tonight , driving there and back so liberating
it will also be a great sober battery re charge ,nothing better than watching hysterical red faced drunks for re charging the sober batteries , will be there enjoying myself cool with my sparkling water knowing I will not upset anyone or do anything stupid , can't beat the feeling . Smug maybe but who cares. Happy sober 2015 all !
Going to a NYE party tonight , driving there and back so liberating
it will also be a great sober battery re charge ,nothing better than watching hysterical red faced drunks for re charging the sober batteries , will be there enjoying myself cool with my sparkling water knowing I will not upset anyone or do anything stupid , can't beat the feeling . Smug maybe but who cares. Happy sober 2015 all !
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