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Old 12-29-2014, 08:34 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I didn't do perfect today


So, I feel bad, because I didn't do everything I was supposed to today. I've been trying so hard, but I wasn't perfect today. I forgot to pray this morning. I only went to one meeting (my sponsor said two a day). And I only called one other alcoholic today (it's supposed to be two). Okay, so I didn't drink, and I didn't pick up any drug. But damnit, I feel bad because I don't do everything the way I was supposed to. I really did WANT some Damn opiates today - I still do now. My back hurts, my ankle and my foot, too.
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Old 12-29-2014, 08:37 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Well, you managed to stay clean, which is the most important thing - there will be plenty of opportunities for the other things. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Congrats on keeping sober.
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I rarely accomplish all I set out to do Elena. You stayed sober and clean. Thast a pretty great thing to tick off

Welcome to SR - I hope you feel better tomorrow - if not maybe you need to see your Dr?

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Old 12-29-2014, 08:39 PM   #4 (permalink)
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You WERE perfect today because you didn't drink or use! That's the most important thing! Don't be so hard on yourself. (((Hug)))
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Old 12-29-2014, 08:43 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Don't be so hard on yourself. You stayed sober and accomplished a lot today. That is huge! Give yourself some credit.
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Old 12-29-2014, 08:45 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I think you did great. If you just continue to do exactly what you did today tomorrow and the next day and the next....I think you will be quite pleased with yourself.
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Old 12-29-2014, 09:13 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Tell your sponsor you didn't follow through on your commitments today and do better tomorrow.

We all fall short occasionally but don't make a habit of it.
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Old 12-29-2014, 09:45 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Oh crap, we're supposed to be perfect?

If that were the case, no one would ever recover. It sounds to me like you did great. You're sober.
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Old 12-29-2014, 10:46 PM   #9 (permalink)
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It seems like you did lots of things right today! Be kind to yourself and focus on all the positive things that you accomplished. Ignore that negative voice that we all have, it lies. I hope you feel better soon!
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Old 12-29-2014, 11:30 PM   #10 (permalink)
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You didn't drink or take drugs. THAT is the most important thing -be proud of yourself for that.

Treat yourself kindly and don't be so hard on yourself. You aren't supposed to be perfect-none of us are
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Old 12-30-2014, 01:35 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Hey Elena. If you keep beating yourself up for not being perfect, you're on a hiding to nothing. Even the AA Big Book states: "We strive for progress, not perfection..." As others have already mentioned, you didn't drink or drug. That's enough for today.
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Old 12-30-2014, 01:47 AM   #12 (permalink)
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Elena the aim is to stay sober you done that

I would book apt with doc to have a G.check up

there will be time for phonecalls the point is you stayed sober

Congrats
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You stayed clean, that's a huge step forward Concentrate on that and the rest will come xxx
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Old 12-30-2014, 04:40 AM   #14 (permalink)
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yes, if you stayed stopped today, you had a perfect day!

did you know there is no perfection in AA and no absolutes?
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trying to be perfect is a recipe for failure--just do the best you can and don't drink

the rest will catch up and take care of itself

Congrats on another sober day!
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Old 12-30-2014, 04:59 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Elena, I've learned that being Perfect has nothing to do with how much pain I feel. Pain is part of perfection as much as is joy. You're doing just fine.
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Old 12-30-2014, 05:02 AM   #17 (permalink)
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Elena, I once heard a fellow alcoholic say that there was only one thing she could do perfectly each day and that was to not drink.

So you did do something perfectly today - you stayed clean perfectly.

Maybe speak to your GP about pain management options that aren't opiate-based?
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Old 12-30-2014, 10:01 AM   #18 (permalink)
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You still came out ahead. We all have these days.
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Old 12-30-2014, 10:03 AM   #19 (permalink)
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Perfection is over rated. ;-) Stay the course, you did great!
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Old 12-30-2014, 10:09 AM   #20 (permalink)
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Progress not perfection!

You did more than I did today. All I did so far today was my morning prayer, go to work and not drink.

Stay accountable and active but don’t beat yourself up if you didn’t do everything.

Your sober and there have been several days that was the only thing I accomplished that day. Keep showing up, keep coming back. Give to others and pray.

Everything is going to be okay
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