luvmygirls

I can completely understand how you feel smothered. I've felt the same way about my husband, many times. He is controlling by nature, while I am extremely independent...add large amounts of alcohol and my "independence" becomes secrecy and isolation, so the cycle continues. I drink, he feels shut out and scared, he smothers me, I withdraw and drink. Lather, rinse, repeat. I wish I had some advice for you, but I'm still working on this issue myself. The one thing I've learned is that I am less likely to isolate when I'm sober, so he doesn't feel like he has to be all up in my business 24/7, haha.

OklaBH

Tell him the meetings are closed. Let him read your posts. I would ask the mods to edit our the fork/eyes part though

I thought my husband was my trigger. Now that he is out of my hair my alcoholic brain has developed new triggers. So my suggestion, concentrate on your sobriety solely. First and foremost stay sober. You will be irritable for awhile. Goto the doctor. Tell him/her whats going on. It really really will help.