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12-23-2014, 08:36 AM

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MCAL880

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I messed up.

I was doing so good and then i go and screw it all up. Husband told me some bad news so what do I do? I panic and pour a drink. To top it all off I also self harmed. Hadn't done that in a while. Today my head is pounding and i am so beyond disappointed in myself. I don't even know what to say, what to think. I'm just beyond words.

12-23-2014, 08:44 AM

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Lance40

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Please be kind to yourself. Relapses, slip ups, mistakes and old patterns have happened to most of us here. It's not fun, but the important thing is that you are back here posting and being honest about what happened. That's part of standing up, dusting yourself off and having a new day to be sober along with the rest of us. :-)

12-23-2014, 08:44 AM

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Soberwolf

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I suggest you speak to a doc immediatly

We are all here for you but i think its best you seek medical attention

12-23-2014, 08:50 AM

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OklaBH

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Im so sorry this happened to you. You really need to see a doctor....today

dont wait until after the holidays. This is very serious. Im worried for you.

12-23-2014, 10:25 AM

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PurpleKnight

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Don't beat yourself up, go at things again with the right help and support!!

You can do this!!

12-23-2014, 03:04 PM

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Dee74

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The good thing is you're back MC.
Regroup recharge and renew - get back on the right road.

Maybe thing about what things you could add to your recovery plan to make it foolproof?

D

12-23-2014, 03:21 PM

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Nuudawn

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Quote:

Originally Posted by MCAL880

Husband told me some bad news so what do I do? I panic and pour a drink.

I just read today that the number 1 trigger for relapse is stress...
As alcoholics/addicts, it has been THEE coping mechanism.. so in the absence of our coping mechanism, how do we cope?

We need to find new ways to cope. When we sober, we gotta know that stress and upset is going to happen. It is inevitable.
What do we do?

We need to have ways at ready disposal.
Do we practice breathing exercises?
Do we meditate?
Do we call a friend?
Do we go for run?
Do we go for a drive?

We need to prepare ourselves in what to do? I know that before I looked at it as "what do I do when I want to drink"... but I think I need to dig deeper than that.
What do I do when I get angry?
What do I do when I get lonely?
What do I do when I'm frustrated?
What do I do when I feel left out?

How do I self soothe? I know how I used to.

How do we do it now? It's worth some thought don't ya think?