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Old 12-20-2014, 02:32 PM
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I am so much stronger than all of you!!!

That’s pretty much what I told myself earlier in the year when I decided to resume drinking after 4 months of abstinence!! I was going to do what couldn’t be done which is drink in moderation!!
All the posts from people sharing their experiences of failed attempts. That means nothing to me, because I am certainly different than all of you!! I’m stronger and more disciplined!!! Sure I have a problem, but not to the extent of some of the horror stories I read here!! I mean I never had a DUI (just luck), or lost a job, or even had a family member express concern of my drinking!! My wife and many friends can have 1-2 drinks and be done for the night. I’m sure that can be me!!

Well most of you know how the story goes. My moderation lasted a few weeks, then back to hangovers, the blackouts, the fatigue, etc.. I quickly realized I am no different or stronger than anyone else who has a drinking problem!! I’m no different than anyone who posts on this site and struggles to get to a better place in there life!! I’m sorry to all for my conceit!! So I’m thinking this time around I may give AA a shot. Always wanted to do it on my own, but I may need some additional support. As always, thanks for listening!!
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:34 PM
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Welcome back, betterlife. Nice to meet you.
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:37 PM
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:40 PM
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Welcome to the club.

Always thought that I could prove myself a normal drinker too.

It's the only thing I put so much effort into, but failed so miserably.

Strange

Anyway doesn't matter anymore, I got 99 problems but a drink ain't one
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:44 PM
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Welcome back. Thank you for the post...it helps hearing again that moderation is not feasible. If it was, chances are you wouldn't have posted on this site in the first place
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:47 PM
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Glad to see you and thanks for posting. I catch myself thinking I'm the 'exception' too...thanks for the reminder!
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:49 PM
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:50 PM
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Hi better life, I'm with you... Your post is very similar to my story too (although you seem to have a much better way with words!) even the 4 month abstinence, I was also sober for 4 months and tried after to moderate after- it didn't work.

This is my day 3 again. It feels different this time around for me, I think because I've realised I can't drink like "normal" people, I don't have that "off switch" like they do. Therefore abstinence is the only way for me.

I'm glad you're here, everyone is really helpful and kind. Welcome and good to meet you
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:53 PM
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:58 PM
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Old 12-20-2014, 03:50 PM
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Thanks everybody! It's good to be back! Those four months of sobriety were wonderful! It stinks I need to start from scratch again, but at least I know if I do the right thing, I never have to suffer another hangover again!!
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Old 12-20-2014, 03:59 PM
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Great to see you back with us Betterlife. You sound determined.
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Old 12-20-2014, 04:08 PM
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Old 12-20-2014, 04:15 PM
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Welcome back! Us alcoholics can not go back to moderation. Our AV thinks so, and works really hard to trick us into thinking so.
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Old 12-20-2014, 04:17 PM
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Welcome back! Us alcoholics can not go back to moderation. Our AV thinks so, and works really hard to trick us into believing we can.
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Old 12-20-2014, 04:20 PM
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Old 12-20-2014, 04:34 PM
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Saw the title, I was all set up to either bash you up or agree with you. Well, glad you are back, and good luck.

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Old 12-20-2014, 04:39 PM
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Hey Betterlife1- Thanks for your post! It's another reminder for me to just stay the course, and accept the fact that I can no longer drink.

If it were not for the many posts that I have read about other people and their failed attempts to be a 'normal' drinker, I'm almost certain that I would have given it a go myself, only to undoubtedly learn the hard way that it's just not possible when I'm wired the way that I am. I guess it's just a matter of acceptance, as difficult as that might be.


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Old 12-20-2014, 04:49 PM
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I thought that when I went to AA a year ago, now I'm back at AA haha!
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Old 12-20-2014, 05:09 PM
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I saw the title, and I was out for a fight lol

I've been sober for 9 months, I really no longer have the urge to drink, so I figure "Why even try" ?
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