Hello everyone 40 days!
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Hello everyone 40 days!
Hi everyone,
I'm happily going to sleep sober tonight for the 40th night in a row. I didn't think this was possible 41 days ago so it's pretty amazing for me. I have read some of the threads here during that time and I have to say you are all so strong, so tough, so delicate, so real and you have helped me when I wasn't sure why I was staying sober. So thank you. I'm full of thoughts I want to share.
So far I will attribute my success to about a year of preparation which has included therapy, yoga, meditation, facing my fears and building boundaries. Had I not spent the time doing that I'd be drunk right now. I'm also busy with my children, husband, job, family and friends.
It's weird I feel like there is so much more time in the day and I love all my people more. But I am still full of anger, anxiety, irritation and so on. I just don't get quite as well apocalyptic about those feelings now. I am dealing with them. It's not fun.
Also, I'm not sure where this is all headed. I'm relieved to be 40 days sober. It hasn't been as hard as I expected. But I hadn't made any promises or declaration about to my intentions from here on out either. I'm thinking 6 months and then do a review? Anyone else ever feel this way? My husband still actively drinks and tonight I let him know it'd be easier if we were both on the same page about dealing with our lives and being sober.
Thanks for reading if you got this far and thanks again for all you've shared.
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I'm happily going to sleep sober tonight for the 40th night in a row. I didn't think this was possible 41 days ago so it's pretty amazing for me. I have read some of the threads here during that time and I have to say you are all so strong, so tough, so delicate, so real and you have helped me when I wasn't sure why I was staying sober. So thank you. I'm full of thoughts I want to share.
So far I will attribute my success to about a year of preparation which has included therapy, yoga, meditation, facing my fears and building boundaries. Had I not spent the time doing that I'd be drunk right now. I'm also busy with my children, husband, job, family and friends.
It's weird I feel like there is so much more time in the day and I love all my people more. But I am still full of anger, anxiety, irritation and so on. I just don't get quite as well apocalyptic about those feelings now. I am dealing with them. It's not fun.
Also, I'm not sure where this is all headed. I'm relieved to be 40 days sober. It hasn't been as hard as I expected. But I hadn't made any promises or declaration about to my intentions from here on out either. I'm thinking 6 months and then do a review? Anyone else ever feel this way? My husband still actively drinks and tonight I let him know it'd be easier if we were both on the same page about dealing with our lives and being sober.
Thanks for reading if you got this far and thanks again for all you've shared.
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Welcome to SR 11 Stars 
I think declarations are really down to individual choice.
I told everybody but I regret that now - I don't think it was necessary for me to make any grand declarations in order to recover - those who knew me best knew I was a drunk, and those who knew me less were worried.
The only thing I find necessary to say these days, several years on, is 'no thanks...I don't drink'
I think declarations are really down to individual choice.
I told everybody but I regret that now - I don't think it was necessary for me to make any grand declarations in order to recover - those who knew me best knew I was a drunk, and those who knew me less were worried.
The only thing I find necessary to say these days, several years on, is 'no thanks...I don't drink
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Originally Posted by 11Stars 
My husband still actively drinks and tonight I let him know it'd be easier if we were both on the same page about dealing with our lives and being sober.
My husband doesn't drink, but is a really heavy pot smoker (not my thing at all), and we've been undergoing some delicate negotiations about boundaries and common goals. So what you said resonates with me for sure. It feels like 2 steps forward 1 step back most of the time. Those are hard conversations.
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Originally Posted by jerri11
First, welcome and congrats on 40 days! I'm fairly new here myself and can honestly say that it's been a big help for me.
My husband doesn't drink, but is a really heavy pot smoker (not my thing at all), and we've been undergoing some delicate negotiations about boundaries and common goals. So what you said resonates with me for sure. It feels like 2 steps forward 1 step back most of the time. Those are hard conversations.
My husband doesn't drink, but is a really heavy pot smoker (not my thing at all), and we've been undergoing some delicate negotiations about boundaries and common goals. So what you said resonates with me for sure. It feels like 2 steps forward 1 step back most of the time. Those are hard conversations.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
Welcome to SR 11 Stars
I think declarations are really down to individual choice.
I told everybody but I regret that now - I don't think it was necessary for me to make any grand declarations in order to recover - those who knew me best knew I was a drunk, and those who knew me less were worried.
The only thing I find necessary to say these days, several years on, is 'no thanks...I don't drink'
I think declarations are really down to individual choice.
I told everybody but I regret that now - I don't think it was necessary for me to make any grand declarations in order to recover - those who knew me best knew I was a drunk, and those who knew me less were worried.
The only thing I find necessary to say these days, several years on, is 'no thanks...I don't drink
'
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