Anger--I feel so close to having a drink
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Is there some REASON you need to have beer in your refrigerator? Obviously, it's always possible to get in the car and go buy alcohol, but that does require a certain amount of effort to acquire, and time enough that you get a chance to think through whether you really want to do that.
I found it EXTREMELY helpful in early sobriety not to have ANY alcohol in my home. It wouldn't have stopped me if I were really determined to drink, but it prevented the impulsive "I'm pissed off so I'm gonna have a drink" scenario.
Is your husband supportive? Could he agree that for the first few months at least you won't keep it in the house?
I found it EXTREMELY helpful in early sobriety not to have ANY alcohol in my home. It wouldn't have stopped me if I were really determined to drink, but it prevented the impulsive "I'm pissed off so I'm gonna have a drink" scenario.
Is your husband supportive? Could he agree that for the first few months at least you won't keep it in the house?
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I have a list of valid reasons for Me to drink. It is very short "None, no matter what".
My AV will constantly try and add items, before making the decision to be a nondrinker ,there were admittedly other items on the "list" , but I pared it down to the most reasonable one for Me.
Hopefully you can scratch anger off the AV's list, cause you will probably be angry in the future. And you showed that moronic AV that one can be angry work, andthrough it without the drinking part being an option.
Paring down the list and not allowing any new items to be added works for me. I'm going to be angry in the future, practically guaranteed, but I made a decision to not drink in any future guaranteed. It's a mind game and I plan to win, am winning, AV has no editorial authority
My AV will constantly try and add items, before making the decision to be a nondrinker ,there were admittedly other items on the "list" , but I pared it down to the most reasonable one for Me.
Hopefully you can scratch anger off the AV's list, cause you will probably be angry in the future. And you showed that moronic AV that one can be angry work, andthrough it without the drinking part being an option.
Paring down the list and not allowing any new items to be added works for me. I'm going to be angry in the future, practically guaranteed, but I made a decision to not drink in any future guaranteed. It's a mind game and I plan to win, am winning, AV has no editorial authority
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I'm with soberwolf. Pour the damn stuff out, or have your husband do it. One thing I've learned--no matter how rare or expensive the booze, a relapse costs a lot more. This isn't a situation where waste is a sin.
Some alcoholics are, eventually, OK with having it in their homes for company. That's an individual decision--even after six years sober, I'm not comfortable with it here. I read a recommendation to use an Everclear soak to clean e-cigarette cartridges. I decided I'd rather throw out the cartridges when they are dirty enough than to buy Everclear and keep it on hand. The idea just gives me the willies.
But in early sobriety, putting as many obstacles as possible between you and an impulsive drink is just plain good sense.
Some alcoholics are, eventually, OK with having it in their homes for company. That's an individual decision--even after six years sober, I'm not comfortable with it here. I read a recommendation to use an Everclear soak to clean e-cigarette cartridges. I decided I'd rather throw out the cartridges when they are dirty enough than to buy Everclear and keep it on hand. The idea just gives me the willies.
But in early sobriety, putting as many obstacles as possible between you and an impulsive drink is just plain good sense.
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Originally Posted by dwtbd 
I have a list of valid reasons for Me to drink. It is very short "None, no matter what".
My AV will constantly try and add items, before making the decision to be a nondrinker ,there were admittedly other items on the "list" , but I pared it down to the most reasonable one for Me.
Hopefully you can scratch anger off the AV's list, cause you will probably be angry in the future. And you showed that moronic AV that one can be angry work, andthrough it without the drinking part being an option.
Paring down the list and not allowing any new items to be added works for me. I'm going to be angry in the future, practically guaranteed, but I made a decision to not drink in any future guaranteed. It's a mind game and I plan to win, am winning, AV has no editorial authority
My AV will constantly try and add items, before making the decision to be a nondrinker ,there were admittedly other items on the "list" , but I pared it down to the most reasonable one for Me.
Hopefully you can scratch anger off the AV's list, cause you will probably be angry in the future. And you showed that moronic AV that one can be angry work, andthrough it without the drinking part being an option.
Paring down the list and not allowing any new items to be added works for me. I'm going to be angry in the future, practically guaranteed, but I made a decision to not drink in any future guaranteed. It's a mind game and I plan to win, am winning, AV has no editorial authority
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Originally Posted by countrygirl2014
Anger only lasts about 20 minutes. Just a fun fact. I try to keep my mouth shut and let it pass. 20 minutes later, I'm ready to discuss things like a big girl.
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I really love "fun facts" lately.
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Oh, and I apologize for the references to "husband"--you said "partner" in your first post. Usually I try to pay attention to those things, but sometimes when I'm reading a lot of posts I forget what someone's relationship is.
Great move on getting rid of the beer/wine.
And ALSO great that you are listening to suggestions--not that you leave your brains at the door when you get into recovery, or that everyone's suggestions are necessarily good or right for you--because I think willingness to take suggestions of those who have already walked the path is a pretty good predictor of success in this business of getting sober and staying that way.
Great move on getting rid of the beer/wine.
And ALSO great that you are listening to suggestions--not that you leave your brains at the door when you get into recovery, or that everyone's suggestions are necessarily good or right for you--because I think willingness to take suggestions of those who have already walked the path is a pretty good predictor of success in this business of getting sober and staying that way.
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No worries, Lexie. He is, actually, my husband, but I always refer to folks as partners. Sort of a residual from all those years when many folks in my life couldn't marry their sweethearts.
I'm so appreciative of people's advice. If we all knew how to do this on our own, we wouldn't all be here!!
I'm so appreciative of people's advice. If we all knew how to do this on our own, we wouldn't all be here!!
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