I guess it's time but I'm afraid
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I guess it's time but I'm afraid
So this is my first day here. I guess God brought me here since I've been asking him to help me with this. I drink vodka just about daily and have on and off for about nine years. Within recent months I've felt alcohol affecting me and who I've become more and more. My husband also drinks daily(a few beers) and I think part of what has made me hesitant to stop drinking is because I think our relationship will change as I'm different when I don't drink and I don't always like who he is when he drinks as well as the smell of it( go figure). I think I'd made up my mind I was going to stop for the new year but within the last week or so I've been getting headaches daily either shortly after I start drinking or the next day and it's making me nervous so I've decided to stop now. I'm scared but I know this is best for me. My mom and dad were both drug addicts and I need to know that I'm stronger than them. God knows my children mean much more to me than my brother and I ever did to them.
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I am back again. I had 100 days under my belt before I relapsed for 9 months. Today's is day 2.
My spouse is a casual drinker. The first time I quit, I did not set any boundaries for him as far as drinking in the house or around me etc.
For me, this was a mistake. It was too much temptation. This time he has agreed to keep it out of the house and away from me completely.
The last 9 months have made it very clear to me what the difference between an alcoholic and a casual drinker is. He might pour one drink. He sips it. He truly enjoys it. He usually then washes his glass and goes on with his night. He might have two or three at a party.
I have 4 drinks with him. Then when he goes to bed, I keep drinking until I pass out or run out. I can't have one. I don't enjoy just one. I can't just walk away.
I have decided I can't compare my drinking to anyone else. Yes, he still drinks sometimes but he can handle having a drink. I have to just focus on my relationship with alcohol because that is all I can really control and I can only control it by not drinking.
Best of luck and welcome. The people here are very wise and they really care.
My spouse is a casual drinker. The first time I quit, I did not set any boundaries for him as far as drinking in the house or around me etc.
For me, this was a mistake. It was too much temptation. This time he has agreed to keep it out of the house and away from me completely.
The last 9 months have made it very clear to me what the difference between an alcoholic and a casual drinker is. He might pour one drink. He sips it. He truly enjoys it. He usually then washes his glass and goes on with his night. He might have two or three at a party.
I have 4 drinks with him. Then when he goes to bed, I keep drinking until I pass out or run out. I can't have one. I don't enjoy just one. I can't just walk away.
I have decided I can't compare my drinking to anyone else. Yes, he still drinks sometimes but he can handle having a drink. I have to just focus on my relationship with alcohol because that is all I can really control and I can only control it by not drinking.
Best of luck and welcome. The people here are very wise and they really care.
Did you explain that to him ? its hard for casual drinkers to understand that we can't have just one , unless you mean one gallon and even then that may not be enough , your deffinetly on the right track by knowing that you don't want just one , and 2 you've realised its pointless to compare your drinking with anyone elses
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