Thanksgiving. Day 4.
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Join Date: Nov 2014
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Thanksgiving. Day 4.
So its day 4.
I've been doing pretty well on this attempt. I started a blog to chronicle the journey which has seemed to give me structure and accountability.
But as I lay here on Thanksgiving morning in the US I know that today could be a challenge. I'm not ready to reveal that I'm not drinking to friends an family. Particularly in this festive setting.
So what do I do? Fake drinks? Say I'm on meds?
A big part of me is sick of lying about drinking and wants to just fess up. But not yet.
I've been doing pretty well on this attempt. I started a blog to chronicle the journey which has seemed to give me structure and accountability.
But as I lay here on Thanksgiving morning in the US I know that today could be a challenge. I'm not ready to reveal that I'm not drinking to friends an family. Particularly in this festive setting.
So what do I do? Fake drinks? Say I'm on meds?
A big part of me is sick of lying about drinking and wants to just fess up. But not yet.
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Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: South
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Can't you fess up just for the day? "I'm tired of waking up hungover on Friday, so I'm not drinking today"
PS - I think you'll be presently surprised at how little people care if you drink or not. That's all in our own heads'
PS - I think you'll be presently surprised at how little people care if you drink or not. That's all in our own heads'
Trudgin
Join Date: Jul 2014
Posts: 6,348
Glad you're here, Welcome!!
Sounds to me like you have clarity in your thought process.....Good! I agree about not shouting the Good News to all - they will see by your behavior you're on a path to improve not only your life, but those you come in contact with.
Post during day, keep us updated!!!!!
Happy Thanksgiving Pat!!!
FlyN
Sounds to me like you have clarity in your thought process.....Good! I agree about not shouting the Good News to all - they will see by your behavior you're on a path to improve not only your life, but those you come in contact with.
Post during day, keep us updated!!!!!
Happy Thanksgiving Pat!!!
FlyN
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Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: C.C. Ma.
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Hi.
On a day that I continue to be thankful for a lot of sober time it’s sometimes easy to not remember when things were difficult to absorb.
In my early experience with not drinking I didn’t feel it necessary to explain to ANYBODY why I wasn’t drinking. When I did mention it to some the majority said “good.”
Most “friends” I might have enjoyed some beverages with felt uncomfortable so I made friends with sober people in the program, many being solid for a lot of years.
I found I needed self honesty about my drinking and accept the fact I can not drink in safety. At that point the journey started and I never looked back.
BE WELL
On a day that I continue to be thankful for a lot of sober time it’s sometimes easy to not remember when things were difficult to absorb.
In my early experience with not drinking I didn’t feel it necessary to explain to ANYBODY why I wasn’t drinking. When I did mention it to some the majority said “good.”
Most “friends” I might have enjoyed some beverages with felt uncomfortable so I made friends with sober people in the program, many being solid for a lot of years.
I found I needed self honesty about my drinking and accept the fact I can not drink in safety. At that point the journey started and I never looked back.
BE WELL
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Join Date: Aug 2014
Posts: 819
If offered a drink you can just say i'll have a coke or whatever non alcoholic drink you choose. If offered a specific alcoholic drink, a no thanks will suffice. I had someone offer me a beer the other day. I said no thanks, I don't drink anymore. He said you're no fun anymore. I just laughed and said guess not. That is as far as it went. Most people don't push the issue.
If you feel you need an excuse, pick one before the time arises. I'm on antibiotics, I am on a new healthy diet-no alcohol, I am saving my caloriies for the food today etc....
If you feel you need an excuse, pick one before the time arises. I'm on antibiotics, I am on a new healthy diet-no alcohol, I am saving my caloriies for the food today etc....
Keep them wondering and guessing. If they ask I just reply "no thank you" no explanation needed 
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Nice work Pat - I too, just made to through day 4 without a drink on TG - everyone else drank and I had water - no questions asked. I think sometimes since we are so focused on our own not-drinking, that we seem to think that others actually care...when in reality, they couldn't care less...
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