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Old 11-26-2014, 09:19 AM
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This morning...

I woke up with a voice that said "you're done." I am 63 and have had trouble with alcoholism since my late 20s. I also have PTSD. I found SR and am just reaching out for experience, strength and hope. Thank you!
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Old 11-26-2014, 09:22 AM
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Old 11-26-2014, 09:23 AM
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Welcome. I'm glad you're done.
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Old 11-26-2014, 09:35 AM
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Regret

Thank you! I am struggling with regret and I don't know how to forgive myself and move on. The voice in my head just keeps going over and over all of the mistakes I have made. They overpower the positive things I have done.
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Old 11-26-2014, 09:40 AM
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Hi its really nice to meet you welcome to forum friend

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Old 11-26-2014, 09:48 AM
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I will do just that and I am glad to meet you as well. That is a beautiful photo.
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Old 11-26-2014, 10:15 AM
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Hey beach20- Welcome!

This morning is the perfect time to be "done." This site offers a lot of support, which can help with just that.

We all have regrets, but I think as you move forward in your goals of being 'done,' the positive stuff will start to overshadow your regrets.

I look forward to seeing you around in here.


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Old 11-26-2014, 10:21 AM
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Welcome! We all have regrets but the past is the past. It's time to write a new future.
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Old 11-26-2014, 10:31 AM
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Beach, you cannot unring the bell, as they say.

What you can do is move forward and not add any more negatives to your story.

I did a lot of things of which I am not proud, but I don't do them any more. If I didn't learn from those mistakes, that would be a lot worse, right?
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Old 11-26-2014, 11:02 AM
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Hi.
I was shown that we have choices in sobriety and the past is over. I don’t have to repeat it under the influence of alcohol.
I prefer to have a more healthy mind by not drinking one day at a time in a row.
It may take time but things usually work if we let them.

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Old 11-26-2014, 11:09 AM
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So grateful

for your wise responses. I am going to remember them because if I don't, I will drink over the past and continue the cycle. Endlessly berating myself has not proven to be useful.
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Old 11-26-2014, 11:23 AM
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Welcome beach! I've had that voice too. It's a good start when you hear "I'm done" instead of "More".

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Old 11-26-2014, 11:29 AM
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Old 11-26-2014, 11:47 AM
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Hello beach.
As a newbie to this forum with many a failed attempt at sobriety I've found this forum to be a tower of strength, support, help and encouragement.

Even just noodling around reading old posts I find helpful and reassuring.

"I'm Done" sounds a fantastic start to me
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Old 11-26-2014, 02:38 PM
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Welcome Beach

SR really helped me turn my life around. Coming here daily still reminds me of how bad it was and what I need to do to stay sober

glad you found us

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Old 11-26-2014, 02:47 PM
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Thank you Beach really glad your here friend
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Old 11-26-2014, 02:48 PM
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Old 11-26-2014, 02:53 PM
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Welcome Beach. I had a similar voice too.

Anyone who has a drinking past has regrets, I think. I know I do.

Could I suggest that AA might be helpful for you as a good way of working on them ?

Look around, there are many experiences here which you will find helpful, and tons of support.
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Old 11-26-2014, 03:11 PM
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Oh yes, I am willing

to do what it takes...go back to AA, Celebrate Recovery and SR.
I relapsed four years ago and it took losing nearly everything for me to hear that voice.
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Old 11-26-2014, 04:16 PM
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Well done beach
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