Raider's back! I saw her!
 

Welcome back, lady! Speak up!

hey, Raider! We've missed you!

Love from Lenina

Hi Raider!!! So glad you are around!

trach you are a crazy woman and I love you. I'm don't have anything fun to tell you. I am so devastated. Today was the first time I left the tiny cabin since I came back from Alaska one week ago. And I only did it because I needed to go to the laundromat. So for a few hours, I was distracted. then once back here, the sadness returned. This ache is so deep, I've never experienced anything like it. this is just so horrible. Thank you for asking.

Raider, your post made me think of a Buddhist book " After the enlightenment, then the laundry..." by Jack Kornfeld.....

Wishing you so much peace, Raider!

Hi Raider...good to see you posting :hug:

Trach...you're a woman?

Welcome back Raider.

Trach is a guy. :)

Nice to see you, Raider. So sorry about your pain. :hug:

I know your world just disintegrated. I also know that you needed us. If all we can do is be a shoulder to lean on, we'll be that. If we can be more, we'll be that. We're here for you.

And, yeah, I'm a guy. But, your opening line could explain a lot. :lmao

Hi Raider

Many hugs to you Raider. I am so sorry you are struggling and grieving. XXX

(((((Raider))))) ♥♥♥

Good to see you on SR Pam :hug:

so you haven't considered grief counselling? not an option?
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Hi Raider!

Many hospitals have support groups for grief.

Isolation just makes it worse, Pam.

How's the drinking?

Sitting in my car waiting for my grief group. Pam they really help.

Thank you Trach, Sir. :)

Raider we're always happy when you're around, no matter what's going on.

Pam/Raider - Hope you don't mind if I speak frankly. I know you lost your sister recently and apparently "out of the blue". Two things: Your loss is recent and it was without warning. You didn't have time to prepare for your grief. That is huge. That is what people experience in traumatic situations, like car accidents or a criminal act, like murder. You MUST give yourself time and support. That is the only way to deal with the pain.

My sister was "murdered" in the 9/11 attacks. She was 54 when she died. I am older than her now. That whole situation was incredibly hard to deal with. I went into a tailspin. The whole world was mourning these attacks and I had to watch it over and over on TV. I never thought I would get through it. The pain was so intense. But... in time, the pain faded (never completely gone). The saying "time heals all wounds" is false. It only makes the wounds less painful, but they are never completely gone.

There is no time table regarding grief. It is a highly individual experience. But, don't wound yourself over and over by demanding so much of yourself. Try to heal.

Trach I'm sorry. I don't know how I got that in my mind.

Artfriend im so sorry about your friend.

Thank you all. Love ha bunches.
Pam

Hi Raider! I'm sorry to hear things are rough for you right now. We are all here for you. Hugs!