Witnessed something
AA member
Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 11
Let it go,if you speak to your sponsor about it do not identify the person,not even if male or female.It really has nothing to do with you.
The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking.
The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking.
Member
Join Date: May 2012
Location: canada
Posts: 7,242
i haven't seen anything here that says you know anything about what this person is using these meds for. she might be someone like my sister, who has had tons of hardware inserted in her back and still is in constant agony after years of physio, massage, acupuncture, neurophysio et cetera....you have no idea why a doc prescribed her these meds.
and the person with a five-year chip who was seen buying a case of beer...why shouldn't she?
i have an 8-year chip and could have easily been seen buying wine a couple of weeks ago. why shouldn't i be seen buying wine?
it was a gift for someone else.
best to not make assumptions.
and the person with a five-year chip who was seen buying a case of beer...why shouldn't she?
i have an 8-year chip and could have easily been seen buying wine a couple of weeks ago. why shouldn't i be seen buying wine?
it was a gift for someone else.
best to not make assumptions.
Member
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 5,937
Originally Posted by NightNDay 
Thank you everybody! This is super helpful. I feel a bit better about it now. I will probably not mention it to her unless she says something to me.
I realize this program is not perfect, but i'm still in the honeymoon stage. So seeing that was like a huge blow. But it just reminds me that we're all human, and that this is never easy, no matter how it looks from the outside.
I realize this program is not perfect, but i'm still in the honeymoon stage. So seeing that was like a huge blow. But it just reminds me that we're all human, and that this is never easy, no matter how it looks from the outside.
As has been said, everyone there is human, trying their best but subject to human failings. Don't let her issues become your issues. Keep on keepin' on!
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,442
There's some really good advice here.
For my 2c worth, I've learned through mistakes it's a bad idea to act on snippets of conversation overheard.
I got it wrong - and I made a mess.
I stepped down as General Manager of the Universe shortly after
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For my 2c worth, I've learned through mistakes it's a bad idea to act on snippets of conversation overheard.
I got it wrong - and I made a mess.
I stepped down as General Manager of the Universe shortly after
D
Guest
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Canada
Posts: 4,580
This is a fellow member in recovery...a part of your fellowship...your homegroup...your community..
This is something you are confused by at the very least.
Is a caring, curious, honest conversation out of line? If it were me, I would much prefer someone approached me about their concern.
Wouldn't that mean they care?
This is something you are confused by at the very least.
Is a caring, curious, honest conversation out of line? If it were me, I would much prefer someone approached me about their concern.
Wouldn't that mean they care?
Grateful
Join Date: May 2013
Location: NC
Posts: 1,763
Originally Posted by wehav2day
I've seen a gal with a five year chip at the store buying a case of beer.
I've seen a gal with 15 years "sobriety" who is a 24 hour a day stoner.
I've seen leaders in the program treat the people closest to them like crap.
It has nothing to do with my sobriety. I don't call them out, I don't let them know I won't tell anyone else. Anonymity is the rule, calling her to let her know you will keep her anonymous is probably not the best idea. Just follow the rule.
Like others have said, it's progress not perfection. Be the best you and stay sober. Work those steps, be patient and at some point you will not only have what they have, but an even better version of it that suits you.
I've seen a gal with 15 years "sobriety" who is a 24 hour a day stoner.
I've seen leaders in the program treat the people closest to them like crap.
It has nothing to do with my sobriety. I don't call them out, I don't let them know I won't tell anyone else. Anonymity is the rule, calling her to let her know you will keep her anonymous is probably not the best idea. Just follow the rule.
Like others have said, it's progress not perfection. Be the best you and stay sober. Work those steps, be patient and at some point you will not only have what they have, but an even better version of it that suits you.
I bring this up to tie it in with the pharmacy encounter by the OP. What you think you are seeing might not be what is actually happening. The prescription could be for a family member. Like someone else mentioned she might have a serious and chronic pain issue.
I would personally do everything in my power to avoid opiate pain medication, but sometimes pain MUST be managed for a person to have any type of quality of life. I've had 2 heart surgeries and you better believe I took pain medication for awhile afterwards.
My point is that I always try to give a person the benefit of the doubt if I don't know all of the facts about a situation.
Trudgin
Join Date: Jul 2014
Posts: 6,348
If it were me and something was upsetting I would talk to my sponsor. Leave names out of it.
Sometimes the truth is difficult to ascertain, so don't judge. The importance of this for you is YOUR sobriety.
In general you'll find that some folks actions and behaviors do not mimic their values and beliefs. We are alcoholics .........
Work your program, pray for her and chat with your sponsor are my suggestions.
More will be revealed
Sometimes the truth is difficult to ascertain, so don't judge. The importance of this for you is YOUR sobriety.
In general you'll find that some folks actions and behaviors do not mimic their values and beliefs. We are alcoholics .........
Work your program, pray for her and chat with your sponsor are my suggestions.
More will be revealed
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