RoxyTexas

Im a drunk, I get it. I have two kids…4 and 6. My husband is damn near done with me, he wants me to leave. How? Where? I know I have a problem. Where do I go? He makes so much more $$ than me. Im so tired of fighting. And he is mean about it.

Anyway. WTH do I do?? I get I need to go.

least

Welcome to the family. What about inpatient rehab for a month? That gives you a solid start to living sober.

Also, use this site for all its worth. SR has gotten me thru some bad times. There's a lot of wisdom and compassion here.

RoxyTexas

well that's the obvious answer, but I have a great job. And I really think bailing for a month would jeopardize it….(our health insurance is free…) plus I don't want the whole word to know. Is there a way to get help otherwise? Or am I deluding myself. Probably.

ru12

Well you could try to stop drinking you know. Don't buy it. Don't go where it freely flows. Find activities that you enjoy and get on with your life. There are many programs if you need more structure. I find reading and posting here most helpful.

gypsytears

Stop drinking for tonight. Make an appointment with your doctor. If you're having severe withdrawals don't hesitate to go to the ER. Make a plan, read and check in here often or constantly for support, AA if that's an option for you. These are just some suggestions .

HOUMJM

Roxy, Hey, I also live in Houston. I probably shouldn't give any advice with only 14 days sober here, but if I were to, I'd suggest finding an AA meeting pronto and sit in the front row. Houston has hundreds of AA meetings all over the city - probably one very close to you. There's a good search tool on internet. Ask for a sponsor and she'll be able to guide you during this tough spell. AA has saved my life, and can for you too. Good luck, MJM

Nuudawn

I know it's hard...but you're are going to have to spit out your false pride and do whatever it takes to woman up and save yourself. Addiction is a far greater and more powerful foe than you might be able to realize at the moment..
This isn't deciding to quit the volleyball team.

Are you able to discuss your situation and need for help with the powers that be at work?

Can you call an AA hotline or other recovery hotline?

Soberwolf

This

suki44883

Roxy, now is not the time to let your pride stand in the way. Don't delude yourself...we are talking about your life here. You can probably take Family Medical Leave and your job can't fire you.

Please, understand that you are at the spot where the rubber meets the road. You need to do what is necessary if you want to continue to have a relationship with your children.

When I decided I had enough, I searched online for a medical detox facility in my area. I found one who had room for me, so I emailed work and told them I was checking myself into detox for a drinking problem. I understand not everyone is comfortable doing that, but I was at the end of my rope. I was willing to do whatever it took.

I had a friend drive me to the facility and at that point, my life turned around and I have never once regretted my decision. You can do this, Roxy. You just have to want it more than you've ever wanted anything in your life.

RoxyTexas

The AA meetings look shady(aren't i full of excuses)

Boylan

I had a co-worker tell me he went to rehab for a month. Before he left he talked to HR who arranged it for him to be off work and no one at work knew why he was gone - not even his boss, the CFO. You might look into this approach if you're worried about your job - there might some protections there for you.

gippy1968

I was like you - not wanting the world to know...... I was flabbergasted to find that EVERYONE knew I had a problem and were super supportive of my declaration for rehab.

It still floors me that I thought nobody knew......

RoxyTexas

but I can't leave my kids for 30 days. And sadly I probably need 90 days. This sucks

suki44883

You said you have a husband. He can manage the kids for 30-60-90 days. People do what has to be done.

RoxyTexas

I know they know….that's what I don't get…why does everyone pretend things are ok??

RoxyTexas

but our marriage is not good, regardless of the drinking. He will take my kids.

least

But if your husband decides he's had enough and tells you to leave, won't you be leaving your children then? You have to want it bad enough to do whatever it takes to get and stay sober. AA would be a good start.

Your life depends on the choices you make.

suki44883

If you continue drinking, it just gives him more ammunition if he decides to really take the children. Please stop making excuses. You are facing being kicked out of your home and then what will you do? How will you keep your job?

No one here is trying to scare you, but we are trying to convince you that this is very important to your future and that of your children. Please do what is necessary and don't worry about what anyone else thinks. It's really that important.

RoxyTexas

That's very true. And he has plenty of ammo as it is. FUDGE. WTH do I do.

Thank you, this is reality.

suki44883

Do what you know you need to do. Reach out for some real help. We can encourage you and offer suggestions, but it's up to you to do the real work. You can do this, Roxy.