where i am
 

Following yesterday's despair I'm back on my feet, a day of teaching and attempts to be normal, and now in my parents flat, which I'm emptying as dad has died and mum recently moved to a care home near me. She has copd, anyone here had experience of that ? A pernicious disease so that you don't know where you are from one day to the next. Thought she was going to die over the summer but now she is stable and walking a little. Went in last night, but a mistake - had a panic attack pretty much at leaving house, she was being very bossy and controlling and I had to cut it short which made her angry and abusive. Bit unfair considering I invest soooo much time in visiting and sorting her affairs, anyway probably resentful she's stable! 😞 had organized appt at hospital for test and to hospice day Centre, after several concerns of yers.
, then yesterday she effectively rubbished them and won't go.
Deep sigh. Going to acknowledge my emotions rather than blot them out with alcohol
That's it, thank you for listening
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(((hugs)))

Good for you in acknowledging your emotions & not drinking them away! Now that's a victory within itself!! Own that victory!!! :You_Rock_

Hello JimdiGriz, welcome to SR

Jim, It is tough when you have parent to care for. I work in elder care for almost 20 yrs. I have cared for many people with copd-chronic obstructive pulmonary disease for anyone not famiiliar. If she has just had to leave her home, she is feeling many emotions. Give her time to adjust. But take care of yourself. You can get through this without drinking.

My late mother had Copd which led to terminal cancer that was extremly close to five years ago i am 32

Dont drink it sounds like your really trying help your mum just keep trying stay calm and talk

Good luck

Hang in there Jim!! :)

I'm really sorry that you are struggling taking care of your mother. When I dealt with my aging father who was unstable emotionally and abusive, it was so very hard. I hope that you can remember to take care of yourself too.

I'm sorry for all you're dealing with Jimi but there's support here, anytime :)

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