AA help
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AA help
I've been thinking about going to AA meetings, i am tired of alcohol being an important part of my life. There are things I would like to know about AA meetings before I go. If someone would answer them. Please excuse my ignorance. My questions are based on what I have read on this site and my stepfather going to AA for 15+yrs and still not recovering.
I am not a social person. Do I have to get up and talk in front of people, and tell them my life?
If I fail/mess up and drink does that mean I will be rejected from AA. I understand a counselor can get upset if you drink that is why I ask.
Just to make it plain and simple. What are meetings like? Can someone explain them to me?
I am not a social person. Do I have to get up and talk in front of people, and tell them my life?
If I fail/mess up and drink does that mean I will be rejected from AA. I understand a counselor can get upset if you drink that is why I ask.
Just to make it plain and simple. What are meetings like? Can someone explain them to me?
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Welcome, Sublime...my name is Samantha, alcoholic and addict
Originally Posted by Sublime
I've been thinking about going to AA meetings, i am tired of alcohol being an important part of my life. There are things I would like to know about AA meetings before I go. If someone would answer them. Please excuse my ignorance. My questions are based on what I have read on this site and my stepfather going to AA for 15+yrs and still not recovering.
I am not a social person. Do I have to get up and talk in front of people, and tell them my life?
If I fail/mess up and drink does that mean I will be rejected from AA. I understand a counselor can get upset if you drink that is why I ask.
Just to make it plain and simple. What are meetings like? Can someone explain them to me?
I am not a social person. Do I have to get up and talk in front of people, and tell them my life?
If I fail/mess up and drink does that mean I will be rejected from AA. I understand a counselor can get upset if you drink that is why I ask.
Just to make it plain and simple. What are meetings like? Can someone explain them to me?
hi sublime,
as dan said, you dont have to speak, but in time you probably will feel like doing so. it is a bit like typing here, it is safe.
and where else to find people who have fallen off the wagon, but at an AA meeting haha. members are there are all times of their recovery.
the meetings i go to are fairly relaxed, we take turns to talk, if we dont want to we can just say no, or tell the chair before hand that we dont want to.
when i first started i met some of the people out the front, they were very welcoming, i told them it was my first meeting, they took me under their wing and introduced me to people, let them know i was at my first meeting etc.
try it, if you dont like a particular meeting maybe go to another one in your area. another thing i did too was i rang AA and asked my questions there, anonymously, cause i felt silly. but htose phone chats made me realise i wasnt silly at all.
good luck and hugs
kath
as dan said, you dont have to speak, but in time you probably will feel like doing so. it is a bit like typing here, it is safe.
and where else to find people who have fallen off the wagon, but at an AA meeting haha. members are there are all times of their recovery.
the meetings i go to are fairly relaxed, we take turns to talk, if we dont want to we can just say no, or tell the chair before hand that we dont want to.
when i first started i met some of the people out the front, they were very welcoming, i told them it was my first meeting, they took me under their wing and introduced me to people, let them know i was at my first meeting etc.
try it, if you dont like a particular meeting maybe go to another one in your area. another thing i did too was i rang AA and asked my questions there, anonymously, cause i felt silly. but htose phone chats made me realise i wasnt silly at all.
good luck and hugs
kath
Hello,
welcome to this group. Keep posting there is a lot of help and sincere people here. Sam gave great advice. I too am very shy and no one pressures you into talking at aa meetings if you are not ready. This was a big fear of mine. I quit drinking without AA before and now with AA it is a world of difference. I now have hope that I can make it. Give it a try you desearve it. You will be welcommed with open arms. "bring the body and the mind will follow"
Love,
Lin
welcome to this group. Keep posting there is a lot of help and sincere people here. Sam gave great advice. I too am very shy and no one pressures you into talking at aa meetings if you are not ready. This was a big fear of mine. I quit drinking without AA before and now with AA it is a world of difference. I now have hope that I can make it. Give it a try you desearve it. You will be welcommed with open arms. "bring the body and the mind will follow"
Love,
Lin
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Hi sub. I'll keep it simple. A meeting is a group of drunks that talk about their life exspericnaces and hope of the program. You do not have to say a darn thing nor do you have to make friends with everyone. If you go, go for the simple reason of checking it out. No need to go back,no need to talk. It's free,so what do you have to lose?
Hi Sublime
I called the AA. A guy said he would meet me outside the meeting and have a chat, which he did and we chatted for about half an hour before we went in. In the meeting I just sat there and listened, didn't say a word.
There is a person who is leading the meeting and people only speak if they want to. You will never be rejected from the AA if you want to stop drinking. I've slipped and all I've received from other members is understanding and concern, no judgement.
Give them a call. I'm glad I did.
much love
JC
I called the AA. A guy said he would meet me outside the meeting and have a chat, which he did and we chatted for about half an hour before we went in. In the meeting I just sat there and listened, didn't say a word.
There is a person who is leading the meeting and people only speak if they want to. You will never be rejected from the AA if you want to stop drinking. I've slipped and all I've received from other members is understanding and concern, no judgement.
Give them a call. I'm glad I did.
much love
JC
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Hi Sublime
It's good to see your post, and that you are considering going to AA. You've been given lots of info on what to expect from meetings, so I won't add to that. I just wanted to say how awkward and out of place I felt when I first joined the fellowship. I had a difficult time speaking, and didn't know how to connect with other people. But like anything else, given time the unfamiliar becomes familiar, you make friends, and eventually you'll be striding up to those church doors with your hand extended to greet that newcomer, or that old friend. It has truly changed my life. God Bless you my friend.
Love, Rowan
It's good to see your post, and that you are considering going to AA. You've been given lots of info on what to expect from meetings, so I won't add to that. I just wanted to say how awkward and out of place I felt when I first joined the fellowship. I had a difficult time speaking, and didn't know how to connect with other people. But like anything else, given time the unfamiliar becomes familiar, you make friends, and eventually you'll be striding up to those church doors with your hand extended to greet that newcomer, or that old friend. It has truly changed my life. God Bless you my friend.
Love, Rowan
Hi Sub welcome to Sober Recovery,
AA is a fellowship. As said your only requirment is to stop Drinking. They offer suggestions on a way to live life and keep from drinking by shared experience.The steps are merely levels in which you learn who you are, love, and be a respectible person again. (promising way to live) since we screwed up for so long in our past.
If you do fall and relapse! Go back How ever long it takes. Ive relasped and felt Horrible about going back, But I went and back on track.
Id suggest going to a few meetings. Different ones if possible, check out what different kind of meetings there are. Find a meeting your comfortable with. And listen, listen, listen.Your gonna here your story Im sure and your not gonna be tellin it. You will share when your ready.
And stick around these boards! Theres wonderful people here for support
AA is a fellowship. As said your only requirment is to stop Drinking. They offer suggestions on a way to live life and keep from drinking by shared experience.The steps are merely levels in which you learn who you are, love, and be a respectible person again. (promising way to live) since we screwed up for so long in our past.
If you do fall and relapse! Go back How ever long it takes. Ive relasped and felt Horrible about going back, But I went and back on track.
Id suggest going to a few meetings. Different ones if possible, check out what different kind of meetings there are. Find a meeting your comfortable with. And listen, listen, listen.Your gonna here your story Im sure and your not gonna be tellin it. You will share when your ready.
And stick around these boards! Theres wonderful people here for support
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I am not a social person. Do I have to get up and talk in front of people, and tell them my life?
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