MightyFlea21

I'm about 3 weeks sober. My wife is really in the mood for wine tonight but we don't have any. She asked me if I can pick some up. I feel very strong right now I'll walk out of there with nothing more than wine. Is it a bad idea to pick it up for her or a good test of my resolve? If its a bad idea what do I tell her why I can't get it for her?

Dee74

I think if you have to ask...
why can't your wife pick up her own wine?

D

least

I'd ask her nicely to please get her own wine.

helpimalive

Do you really need to take an optional test that you might fail?

(That's just my first thought, I might not know what I'm talking about ...)

Jwalker

I would (and have) said that I am just not comfortable.

Equally important, I would make sure that your wife understands that the bottle needs to be emptied and in the recycle at the end of the evening. I've gotten into trouble on more than one occasion with a half bottle sitting on the counter waiting for my husband to get back to it.

Congrats on 3 weeks!

Jwalker

Ellay

You don't drink, right? Or use tampons ? Pretend they are liquid tampons....unless of course she can go and physically buy her own wine.

lighteningbug

Definitely ask your wife to get her own wine. Why put yourself in a position to fail? And i agree with the other poster - ask her to finish or dump it so you aren't compelled to drain it yourself. Stay strong!

Bug

ScottFromWI

Bad idea

Anna

I don't believe in tests.

HeartsAfire

Didn't your wife get furious at finding an old bottle yesterday? And didn't she want to watch you pour out the bottle? Now she's asking you to buy her wine? Sound like mixed signals and an opportunity for self-sabotage to me.

Please don't.

MightyFlea21

Hearts - yes you're right that happened yesterday. I told her that the bottle was there from when we were gonna make penne vodka sauce (true but I was gonna drink the rest I didn't use for the sauce). She doesn't know the full extent of my addiction else she would never ask me to go anywhere near a liquor store. I'm too young into this and I agree with all my friends here - bad idea.

Thanks as always for showing me the sober path.

AnvilheadII

If its a bad idea what do I tell her why I can't get it for her?

you could just say NO. I don't like how she's mind f'ing you here......she makes a production out of finding YOUR booze, but then turns around the NEXT DAY and asks YOU to get HER booze?

she wants wine, she can get her own wine. it's obvious she doesn't understand or CARE what you are trying to deal with here.....she may need some education, a heart to heart conversation that for YOU alcohol is poison, and her asking you to buy HER alcohol is insulting and dangerous.

OklaBH

Before my husband quit drinking he would screw with me to. I was clawing the walls with cravings and he cracked open a beer and turned on the show " brew dogs". People amaze me

Carlotta

Exactly what Anvilhead says. Does your wife has a drinking problem too? Because unless she has gotten sick and tired of your relapses, it would be nice of her to be supportive and not drink around you while you are in early sobriety....

MIRecovery

Bad idea. Reason - I'm an alcoholic