Sat there with a pint of beer
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Sat there with a pint of beer
I met up with a ex-collegue and we had lunch today. I was running late and so got there after he had ordered drinks. He had ordered two beers.
I was in a position, I didn't want to tell him, I am tee-total now, quite frankly its nobodies business but mine (and my good anonymous friends on SR).
So I just sat there with the beer in front of me. I ate my meal and he said drink up.
I just said to him, thanks for the beer, but I dont drink and drive.
He looked put out, but I thought why should I drink something, I dont want, dont need and would set me back over 10 days.
No chance, not this time.
I was in a position, I didn't want to tell him, I am tee-total now, quite frankly its nobodies business but mine (and my good anonymous friends on SR).
So I just sat there with the beer in front of me. I ate my meal and he said drink up.
I just said to him, thanks for the beer, but I dont drink and drive.
He looked put out, but I thought why should I drink something, I dont want, dont need and would set me back over 10 days.
No chance, not this time.
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True to course. 10 days in and you my friend have the drive. There are some that say will power has nothing to do with not drinking. I think the true desire to not drink is will power. Congratulations to living life by your rules.
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I'm glad you stayed strong alone - just don't do what I did and assume from one situation that I was somehow impervious to drinking again.
Sooner or later being in old places with old friends got to me.
Hanging around in bars with a pint in front of me is not a place I think any of us needs to be, y'know?
Maybe it's time to think a bit harder and find alternative places to meet and hang out?
D
Sooner or later being in old places with old friends got to me.
Hanging around in bars with a pint in front of me is not a place I think any of us needs to be, y'know?
Maybe it's time to think a bit harder and find alternative places to meet and hang out?
D
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
I'm glad you stayed strong alone - just don't do what I did and assume from one situation that I was somehow impervious to drinking again.
Sooner or later being in old places with old friends got to me.
Hanging around in bars with a pint in front of me is not a place I think any of us needs to be, y'know?
Maybe it's time to think a bit harder and find alternative places to meet and hang out?
D
Sooner or later being in old places with old friends got to me.
Hanging around in bars with a pint in front of me is not a place I think any of us needs to be, y'know?
Maybe it's time to think a bit harder and find alternative places to meet and hang out?
D
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way to go!!
This is a great step.
Next time, consider just saying "I appreciate the thought and gesture, but I am no longer a drinker. Thank you".
The person may actually feel less put out and also be moved by your sincerity.
I know how hard it is early on to want to share that. I have found as my sobriety deepens, that it is more freeing and more strengthening to simply speak that truth than to dodge and weave and make excuses.
I am not criticizing - I think you did a great job honoring your sobriety. It's merely an offer of suggestion for you to consider of something from my own experience.
This is a great step.
Next time, consider just saying "I appreciate the thought and gesture, but I am no longer a drinker. Thank you".
The person may actually feel less put out and also be moved by your sincerity.
I know how hard it is early on to want to share that. I have found as my sobriety deepens, that it is more freeing and more strengthening to simply speak that truth than to dodge and weave and make excuses.
I am not criticizing - I think you did a great job honoring your sobriety. It's merely an offer of suggestion for you to consider of something from my own experience.
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