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Old 10-30-2014, 09:47 AM
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Question Just wondering...

It appears that some people on here are known by their real names even though they have an avatar name. For example, Raider is Pam.

How does that happen?

My real name is Arthur Friendstein

Not!
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Old 10-30-2014, 09:50 AM
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Someone here has the user name "NotMyRealName".

Anonymity is a choice.
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Old 10-30-2014, 09:51 AM
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It's just as you get to know people and make friends. Sometimes people will sign their real name at the end of the post and people just pick up on it
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Old 10-30-2014, 09:52 AM
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I kept mine tricky. My name is actually tommy.
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Old 10-30-2014, 09:55 AM
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Mine is Claudia Chiffon
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Old 10-30-2014, 09:58 AM
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Originally Posted by tommyinphilly View Post
I kept mine tricky. My name is actually tommy.
And let me guess.... you live in Philly? My deductive skills are keen LOL
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Mine is Claudia Chiffon
Cool name!
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Old 10-30-2014, 10:03 AM
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Artfriend, you must be the reincarnation of Poirot. Truth is I only had a month of sobriety when I joined SR and the handle was the limit of my imagination
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Old 10-30-2014, 10:16 AM
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* Book about the life of an alcoholic John Barleycorn
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Old 10-30-2014, 10:20 AM
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<<< This is my real name and the real me!


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Old 10-30-2014, 10:39 AM
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It always blows my mind when Dee remembers peoples' real names, there are so many of us!
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Old 10-30-2014, 10:59 AM
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I so value the opportunity to share unconditionally and with absolute privacy that I am cautious not to even sign my name on PMs (which is where most people share theirs). I'm afraid that my friends on here might slip and identify me in a post.

I've had moments in which I've taken a sentence out of a post which gives just a little bit too much detail, in case friends from the program in-real-life would recognize the post and know who I am.

Very protective of my anonymity. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. I work in the political arena, so I have real reasons to remain private. I am not public with most of the people in my professional life about being in recovery, nor did they know I was struggling with alcohol when I was.

That's the obvious reason. But I notice that I have been hyper-private in other stages of my life as well, when I didn't have concrete work reasons to be. I wonder if that is tied into some of the aspects of me that needs healing. Always moving, always private, always self-protecting and making sure that I am never fully known.

One thing that I'm learning right now, in my public/private split through my involvement with AA here in my little community, is that people can't love you if they don't know you. That "privacy" promotes isolation. That I can't expect support from people if they don't know any of my problems...

So, when the day comes that I DO post my name, you'll all know that it is a stunning breakthrough for me!! It will mean I've decided to be fully myself, and let people know me.

It is actually sweaty palm scary for me - both online and in real life... not a small thing...
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Old 10-30-2014, 11:18 AM
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I really have absolutely no idea how I came up with my sn lol. seriously none. but I'm Dee and there are tons of Dee's on here so I didn't use that at all.
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Old 10-30-2014, 11:24 AM
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Mine is a play on my last name...and that I'm probably a little crazy.

I have no problem with anyone knowing my name is Joe. It's fairly common.
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Old 10-30-2014, 11:43 AM
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Old 10-30-2014, 11:51 AM
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I so value the opportunity to share unconditionally and with absolute privacy...
That's how I feel as well. It allows me to be 100% truthful about my alcohol related problems or questions, without concern for any real consequences.
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Old 10-30-2014, 12:06 PM
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After a while it get's easier remembering regulars that have disclosed their real name!!
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Old 10-30-2014, 12:55 PM
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I've learned some peoples' real names via PM, but I would always call someone by their screen name on the forums unless they posted their own real name on the forums. Is that clear as mud?
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Old 10-30-2014, 01:21 PM
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my real name is Ivor bigone

i dont use my real name as i dont want anyone to laugh at me as i am sensitive about my name so i keep it to myself : )
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