Buried my Dad this morning.
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Chiffon,
I am so very sorry for your loss. Continue to take good care of yourself. Know that your parents' love for you still lives.
In a couple days, it will be five months since I lost my Dad and it is hard. I send you the kindest thoughts.
Peace be with you.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Continue to take good care of yourself. Know that your parents' love for you still lives.
In a couple days, it will be five months since I lost my Dad and it is hard. I send you the kindest thoughts.
Peace be with you.
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Just woke up and am truly overwhelmed, touched and very thankful for all your messages - thank you SO much!
I'm really fortunate in, that neither parent knew of my drinking problem. 22 years ago, when Mum passed, I simply didn't bother much with alcohol - it's only been in the last ten years or so. Dad lived 15 miles away, so when we met, I would go over to meet up with him and with travelling, couldn't drink anyway. I'm SO thankful for that now.
I genuinely didnt find not drnking through the funeral and after a struggle. I am at peace with my sobriety and 6 days ago, as it is now, was a major mistake. I gave in not even really wanting a drink - just wanted anything to relieve some of the stress. It does NOT work! Trust me.
Happily back 'on the wagon', as they say and so very thankful, that SR and all of you exist. Bless you all xxx
I'm really fortunate in, that neither parent knew of my drinking problem. 22 years ago, when Mum passed, I simply didn't bother much with alcohol - it's only been in the last ten years or so. Dad lived 15 miles away, so when we met, I would go over to meet up with him and with travelling, couldn't drink anyway. I'm SO thankful for that now.
I genuinely didnt find not drnking through the funeral and after a struggle. I am at peace with my sobriety and 6 days ago, as it is now, was a major mistake. I gave in not even really wanting a drink - just wanted anything to relieve some of the stress. It does NOT work! Trust me.
Happily back 'on the wagon', as they say and so very thankful, that SR and all of you exist. Bless you all xxx
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Sorry for your loss, Chiffon. All I can say is that when my dad passed away my drinking seriously went off the rails; it seemed like the last restraint on my behavior had been removed. Eventually I began to understand, slowly at first, that my drinking was going to kill me. As my dad lay there, near the end, I bent over and whispered in his ear that I would make him proud. But drinking myself to death sure wouldn't make him proud- it's the last thing he would ever want. So I decided I would quit, even if it killed me. Thankfully it did not!
Nothing but time can heal your heart but it will heal. And I can attest to the fact that it will heal faster if you're sober. Booze didn't help me deal with his death, it allowed me to postpone dealing with. But that didn't make it any easier.
Wishing you well, Chiffon. You can do this, for him and for you. That is the best way to honor his memory.
Nothing but time can heal your heart but it will heal. And I can attest to the fact that it will heal faster if you're sober. Booze didn't help me deal with his death, it allowed me to postpone dealing with. But that didn't make it any easier.
Wishing you well, Chiffon. You can do this, for him and for you. That is the best way to honor his memory.
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Chiffon, I've read through this thread of yours a couple times before I mustered up the courage to respond. So sorry about your loss. You have a great attitude realizing that drinking won't make anything better. My thoughts are with you; please keep up the spirit, sobriety can only bring good things.
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