Still Early in Recovery, very overwhelmed
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Still Early in Recovery, very overwhelmed
I am 11 months clean. I am staying with my brother and his family right now. My family is vdry helpful and i am grateful to them for what they have done for me. I am working a full and part time job, i pay a little rent and share a room with my neices. I go go meetings and another support group to help me get out of poverty, plud therapy and corrections stuff. I am doing everything I can to change my life. The problem is I feel like it's not good. enough for them. My dad is helping my brother and his wife buy and remodel a bigger house so we can all live in it.Right now life is insane here. Remodeling. and moving. at the same time. They expect me to help every second I am not 
working to make money or on my recovery. I am physically and emotionally exhausted. All the chaos is triggering me terribly. I need help dealing and setting boundaries for my own health and recovery. Any help would be appreciated. I also suffer from anxiety.
working to make money or on my recovery. I am physically and emotionally exhausted. All the chaos is triggering me terribly. I need help dealing and setting boundaries for my own health and recovery. Any help would be appreciated. I also suffer from anxiety.
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Wow, that sounds quite chaotic and despite that you're bettering yourself and have almost a year, that's awesome!
It's difficult, if not impossible, for "normal" people to understand how much it takes to maintain sobriety. You say you're going to meetings - AA? Perhaps taking some of the key people in your life to an open meeting would help?
It's difficult, if not impossible, for "normal" people to understand how much it takes to maintain sobriety. You say you're going to meetings - AA? Perhaps taking some of the key people in your life to an open meeting would help?
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Originally Posted by Hopester 
I am 11 months clean. I am staying with my brother and his family right now. My family is vdry helpful and i am grateful to them for what they have done for me. I am working a full and part time job, i pay a little rent and share a room with my neices. I go go meetings and another support group to help me get out of poverty, plud therapy and corrections stuff. I am doing everything I can to change my life. The problem is I feel like it's not good. enough for them. My dad is helping my brother and his wife buy and remodel a bigger house so we can all live in it.Right now life is insane here. Remodeling. and moving. at the same time. They expect me to help every second I am not working to make money or on my recovery. I am physically and emotionally exhausted. All the chaos is triggering me terribly. I need help dealing and setting boundaries for my own health and recovery. Any help would be appreciated. I also suffer from anxiety.
working to make money or on my recovery. I am physically and emotionally exhausted. All the chaos is triggering me terribly. I need help dealing and setting boundaries for my own health and recovery. Any help would be appreciated. I also suffer from anxiety.I can see what you mean though......appears you are stretched/stressed out.
Your brother and his family maybe are as well. Thank goodness you have each other's love. Have you thought about simply speaking to them from the heart? Leading by expressing your gratitude but maybe ask them how their stress level is as well? Perhaps just an open, honest conversation may provide some relief for all??
Wishing you peace - 11 Months is an inspiration to myself and others!!!!
Glad you're here - sounds like a great level of commitment on your part!!
Awesome.......
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Hang in there, make sometime for yourself in all of this to recharge your batteries!!
When I got Sober I found simply going to work in the morning was difficult, but I made sure I got some me time during the day and at weekends, away from it all to focus on me!!
You can do this!!
When I got Sober I found simply going to work in the morning was difficult, but I made sure I got some me time during the day and at weekends, away from it all to focus on me!!
You can do this!!
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