How did this happen??
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How did this happen??
Was sober for six months. Got in a relationship with wrong person who was verbally abusive and took me for a train ride to hell. Started drinking got two dwi's. Been sober now for about four days had been binge drinking straight through two months. Worst of it all i gained 20lbs?! Now... Ive been going to AA, im dealing with the legal ramifications. Im trying to stay positive but twenty pounds? Could that be all fat or water weight?
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you was sober for 6 months and got into a relationship and ended up drinking again and a bit of mess with your life
this is quite a normal run of events, in aa we do suggest people dont go into relationships not until they have at least one year sober living under there belt and will have been starting to work on themselves as people
most people when they hear this when there new say sod that for a lark and ignore the advice
but its based on experiences such as you have had it takes a long time for things to start to settle down and we start to understand just what it is we are dealing with
for alcoholics its not just about putting the drink down and not drinking we also have to change how we behave and react to things thats what takes us a life time to learn
the best thing is your sober again now so although things bad have happend it should least give you more wisdom now for the future
we learn from pain sadly, we never seem to learn when things are going well for some reason
this is quite a normal run of events, in aa we do suggest people dont go into relationships not until they have at least one year sober living under there belt and will have been starting to work on themselves as people
most people when they hear this when there new say sod that for a lark and ignore the advice
but its based on experiences such as you have had it takes a long time for things to start to settle down and we start to understand just what it is we are dealing with
for alcoholics its not just about putting the drink down and not drinking we also have to change how we behave and react to things thats what takes us a life time to learn
the best thing is your sober again now so although things bad have happend it should least give you more wisdom now for the future
we learn from pain sadly, we never seem to learn when things are going well for some reason
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I really think you have a lot bigger problems to deal with than 20 pounds. You are just 4 days sober so you are going through the roller-coaster of early sobriety. You have legal issues to deal with regarding the 2 dui's I guess. The weight will probably come off as you continue your recovery and get into an exercise program.
I really think you have a lot bigger problems to deal with than 20 pounds. You are just 4 days sober so you are going through the roller-coaster of early sobriety. You have legal issues to deal with regarding the 2 dui's I guess. The weight will probably come off as you continue your recovery and get into an exercise program.
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It looks as if you've been a member for a while but don't post much. Why not join the 24-Hour Recovery Connections thread, so that you come here daily? You might just see something else interesting.
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I'm sorry to say that from what you've been through is why I do not want to get into a relationship. I've been sober a bit longer then you, but I don't want to fall into that trap 
I wonder if this means that I am going to be alone for the rest of my life?
I don't make eye contact, I turn my head in the total opposite direction. But, I do smile when I do so
I'm alone, and it's scary. I'd rather be sober and alone, then drunk/or with a drunk.
I wonder if this means that I am going to be alone for the rest of my life? I don't make eye contact, I turn my head in the total opposite direction. But, I do smile when I do so
I'm alone, and it's scary. I'd rather be sober and alone, then drunk/or with a drunk.
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Its amazing.... I never got a DUI as a drunk before and I would ALWAYS drive drunk. Then I went to rehab. Sobered up. Had a huge emotional collapse with this guy. Drove drunk got arrested. Felt so guilty about it - he called me a loser. I was even more in distress a month later I got in another DUI accident this time. Almost lost my job... Cut off contact with him. Got the insurance from my car (which went to my attorney) moved out of state for a new job in a place that I love with great metro transit! All across the country it was even a promotion. God has given me a second or third chance. Im trying not to waste it.
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Originally Posted by Drunkandalone 
Its amazing.... I never got a DUI as a drunk before and I would ALWAYS drive drunk. Then I went to rehab. Sobered up. Had a huge emotional collapse with this guy. Drove drunk got arrested. Felt so guilty about it - he called me a loser. I was even more in distress a month later I got in another DUI accident this time. Almost lost my job... Cut off contact with him. Got the insurance from my car (which went to my attorney) moved out of state for a new job in a place that I love with great metro transit! All across the country it was even a promotion. God has given me a second or third chance. Im trying not to waste it.
As Dee asks, do you have a plan to stay sober and make better decisions about relationships, going forward?
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Originally Posted by Wastinglife
Where I live, 2 DUI's results in mandatory jail time. Are you allowed to go across country without the legal stuff being handled first?
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