I am so upset!!
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It sounds like you hurt someone and they lashed out because they were upset. Either they did so completely irrationally, with some valid criticism, or a combination of the two. It's unfortunate that they aren't giving you the chance to respond, but hopefully you learned something: Either some people are just crazy, or you came across differently than you intended and it hurt someone. I hope the job interview went great!
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Originally Posted by heartcore 
Offending them back sure isn't going to help the collective healing action we've got going on here...
Originally Posted by Hawks
Seems I'm an "egotist" as well... Via another unsolicited PM.
Must be Hawk hunting season.
Must be Hawk hunting season.
J/K, man! I'm an egotist, too. If I weren't so full of my particular self, who would be?
Best wishes for your interview.
Maybe try reading the harsh PMs in funny voices. Maybe the senders will be back in touch in a few days and more willing to converse.
Maybe those people will turn out to be true friends and true mirrors. Or maybe not.
But we've got a bunch of raw people here, many or most of whom are just taking off the bandages of their chemical and other addictions. It's a convention of highly sensitives, highly intuitives, people with a lot of anger, people who connect the dots differently, people who react more than most.
So, little flare-ups like this can happen from time to time.
And as the Pagans would say, we should be careful not to "other" each other, i.e., not to exclude people or fall into an us-vs-them mentality.
Er, ran out of steam but that's probably enough blather.
Hoping the interview goes well!
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Good Lord, folks, come on...how old are we? Hawks, ignore that ****, and just keep being you. I always get good input and advice from you. Blessings on your interview, I wish you the best!
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From the bottom of my heart ...... Thanks every one for the well wishes on the job front
I have a 2nd interview later in the week.
It's looking pretty hopeful.
Cheers
Hawks
I have a 2nd interview later in the week.
It's looking pretty hopeful.
Cheers
Hawks
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Hawks,
Sorry you were dealt this, especially when you need positive energy to focus on your interview and moving forward.
I have come across people in life who have hurt me and when I was drinking, I in turn reacted. I got angry and snapped back. But, the person who was really hurt in the end was me. I let the anger destroy me and so I drank more, got more defensive...you see where this is going.
Learn to forgive and let go. If you harbor resentment and anger it only hurts you. Pray for that person and move on. Don't give it the power to weigh you down.
Sorry you were dealt this, especially when you need positive energy to focus on your interview and moving forward.
I have come across people in life who have hurt me and when I was drinking, I in turn reacted. I got angry and snapped back. But, the person who was really hurt in the end was me. I let the anger destroy me and so I drank more, got more defensive...you see where this is going.
Learn to forgive and let go. If you harbor resentment and anger it only hurts you. Pray for that person and move on. Don't give it the power to weigh you down.
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Join Date: Jul 2014
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A couple days back one of our SR friends posted - if you want to see how well someone's spiritual part of their recovery is going and how much they've learned, disagree with them - see how they react!
This is paraphrased and can't remember now who posted. It struck a chord with me! I seem to handle anger pretty well, but a slight - someone disagreeing with my - and I dwell on it for wayyyyyy too long!!
Much work to do still!
This is paraphrased and can't remember now who posted. It struck a chord with me! I seem to handle anger pretty well, but a slight - someone disagreeing with my - and I dwell on it for wayyyyyy too long!!
Much work to do still!
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Hawks, you recently opined: "I think you know the message was loud and clear but you just didn't like the delivery. I think she has a point.
The people in the group may not always deliver every message perfectly, but actions speak louder than words.... Someone cared enough about you to take you aside and tell you there is so much more on offer, if YOU want it.
Some people dismiss this as AA members "power tripping" or being "control freaks"..... But it's not."
So you've defended people who lack tact and are incapable of interacting with others in an appropriate manner, but now you're upset? It sucks when the shoe is on the other foot and you're the one being talked down to, doesn't it? Perhaps there's a lesson all of us can take away from this? Trying to control others and talking down to others--whether it be in AA or on a discussion forum--is always inappropriate behavior.
I do wish you well with your interview, and I sincerely hope you get the job.
The people in the group may not always deliver every message perfectly, but actions speak louder than words.... Someone cared enough about you to take you aside and tell you there is so much more on offer, if YOU want it.
Some people dismiss this as AA members "power tripping" or being "control freaks"..... But it's not."
So you've defended people who lack tact and are incapable of interacting with others in an appropriate manner, but now you're upset? It sucks when the shoe is on the other foot and you're the one being talked down to, doesn't it? Perhaps there's a lesson all of us can take away from this? Trying to control others and talking down to others--whether it be in AA or on a discussion forum--is always inappropriate behavior.
I do wish you well with your interview, and I sincerely hope you get the job.
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Originally Posted by suki44883
Hawks, just like in AA, not everyone who visits this board is healthy. Whomever PM'd you and made the statement to not reply is evidence that this particular person is not healthy. Please don't let someone who is obviously having a bad day affect yours. Concentrate on good things and best of luck on your interview!! (HUGS)
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