poorlouis

Hmmm thanks. My wife has a copy on the shelf, in fact. I'll give it a look.

doggonecarl

Sobriety often requires massive change. For the time being, things with your brother, maybe even the band, will have to change.

Ask you wife what changes you should make. I bet she'll provide some insight.

Once you get some sobriety under your belt, you should be able to be around a drinking brother, but if the past shows anything, five weeks wasn't enough time.

Good luck.

poorlouis

I do appreciate that. And I get what you're saying. But I've played music for 25 years, and this is by far the best band I have been in. There's no way I'm giving it up. I actually didn't find it that hard not to drink during band practice because I was busy. It was actually while I was bored and at home alone that I really craved a drink. For me, now, I think the real test will be finishing a stressful week of work and finding ways to relax and de-stress without alcohol!

Arbor

I can relate poorlouis. I'm in a band too. Have been for over twenty years. Also with my brother at times. The no drinking thing can be done! Used to feel that a couple drinks would get me in the groove. Now it just makes me sloppy. Good luck.

Dee74

If you're going to continue in the band you'll need iron clad boundaries.

I was in some great bands too - it really hurts to be sacked for drunkenness.

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