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Old 10-12-2014, 02:45 PM
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Time to post this out of my system

Hope everyone is doing good.

Been sober almost 3 months. My finances are not great, so I postponed my drivers License renewal until after my birthday, that was last week.
I was going to go this week, but procrastinated.

Well yesterday I go with my son for groceries, get pulled over for a check. My stupid License was totally expired. Got toed away, my truck ceased for one month, 600$ storage fees, + a ticket for 420$.

Now on foot, my son was heartbroken, and need to go to work tuesday. I live in a rural area somewhat with public transportation a mille away.

2 weeks before that was my water heather.

Not going to drink over this but I feel like crap, trying not to hate myself and feel like crying, screaming. I want my truck NOW says The Alcoholic Pat.

Why do I have to dramatize everything that happens to me is what I have to work on. I need to count my blessings big time.
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Old 10-12-2014, 02:50 PM
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Hang in there pat great on three months. Don't lose it over this.

A speed bump in life. You'll do what's best.
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(((Pat)))
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Hang in there Pat!!
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Old 10-12-2014, 02:58 PM
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We all make mistakes Pat...try and not beat yourself up too much, ok?

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Hang in there Patman! You are nailing the most important thing!
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Old 10-12-2014, 03:03 PM
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Like D said we all make mistakes hang in there Pat itl get better

3 months is really amazing
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Old 10-12-2014, 04:43 PM
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Be strong, my Brother Pat.
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Old 10-12-2014, 04:58 PM
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Oh, the procrastination, I know a thing or two about that...
Well it happened, I am sure you've learned from it, you will handle this thing as well. Awesome on 3 months, don't let this event drain you too much!
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Old 10-12-2014, 05:07 PM
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oh gosh, ThePatman,I am sorry!
This will pass...and its one of those lessons that you will never forget... I have had a few of those, and they stink.

I always say I won't make that mistake again, but I will find a new one, no doubt.

take care... and stay strong!
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Old 10-12-2014, 06:54 PM
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Aw man, sorry to hear. Don't beat yourself up too much, it happens!!

You're doing great, hang in there!
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Old 10-12-2014, 09:14 PM
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Aw..my friend. So sorry to hear bout the tough consequence. Of course, your distressed...anyone would be. This is where the sobriety stuff gets real..real quick. But you are doing this..you ARE handling this. And you know you CAN. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and walk on through.

Thought are with ya buddy.
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Old 10-12-2014, 09:40 PM
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At least you weren't DRUNK with an expired license. Good on ya for not drinking.
Things will look up....
Hang in there!
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Old 10-12-2014, 09:45 PM
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Man, that is pretty hardcore! I feel for you. I actually did the same thing a couple years ago- my license had expired and I simply wasn't paying attention and didn't notice. I got pulled over but all I got was a $140 ticket and a warning to go get it renewed. It sounds like they're a bit rougher there.

I'd be bummed and mad too but you'll get through it. Congrats on three months sober! I know that it hasn't been easy for you but you're making some damn good progress.
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Old 10-13-2014, 04:53 AM
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Thanks everyone. I appreciate the kind words.

If this happened 3 months ago, 100% sure I would have had a DUI. Even if at 8:00 in the morning. I would have been still half in the bag from my Friday night royal rumble with the bottle. Probably would have had 2-3 wake up beers as well in me.

I should be grateful for all the times I played with fire and didn't get burned.
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Old 10-13-2014, 06:53 AM
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Hang in there!!! Well done on not drinking. Even after the crappiest of days, we will have this strength that at least we didn't drink over it! This too shall pass and you will be all the stronger for it.
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Old 10-13-2014, 07:02 AM
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f this happened 3 months ago, 100% sure I would have had a DUI.

Its so great you can focus on the positive side of this setback Thepatman ..... and three months is fantastic (I'm on day 28)
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Old 10-13-2014, 07:06 AM
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Aw Pat, consequences are a pain as I'm sure you are realizing. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but I know for sure that you will get things straightened out and stay sober while doing so.
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Old 10-13-2014, 07:43 AM
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I'm an awful procrastinator... My excuse is usually, I just cant handle that right now, Ill think about it tomorrow. That's how I am with bills, car repairs or anything unpleasant to me. I don't think your being dramatic. When we have negative consequences that we know we could have avoided if we had done what we should have done in a timely manner it hurts.. We do feel like a loser.. but what does it help to allow are selves to feel that way..it doesn't take the consequences away. so as some comments above me said.. concentrate on the positive.. your sober!!! your not adding more negative to an already bad situation. What has to be taken care of today, deal with. then just take it day by day....
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Oh no... I'm sorry you had such a terrible day. Don't beat yourself up for "dramatizing everything that happens to you." You're only human and it's your right to react however you do. What matters is that, despite all of this, you're staying strong. You're not going to drink over it and you've recognized that you need to count your blessings regardless. Kudos for that! Definitely takes a big person to be able to realize that in the face of adversity. Keep your head up, don't beat yourself up, and just do what you have to do in order to correct the situation. This, like everything else on life, will pass. & could always be worse.

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