Best friend new to the forums
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Best friend new to the forums
Hi All,
I'm a 30 year old guy and my best friend is an alcoholic. Apart from the ability to vent a little bit about my frustrations, I've joined this forum to meet some guys around my age who have friends or family with a drinking problem for mutual support.
It seems that a lot of the information on the internet is tailored to partners and parents but not a lot is there about friends (although VERY happy to receive any links that might be useful). It's been a real challenge to switch gears after going out drinking and partying with my best friend all these years, having recognised his problem and resolved not to enable it. I enjoy a drink and a night out now and then, but I must admit that part of me misses the companionship of my mate on these kind of nights, and I'm not really sure how to deal with that. The Australian drinking culture is such that if you don't drink you're a bit of a weirdo, so I can understand that my mate is feeling this from a different angle too.
My friend has been sober for 6 months and I've really enjoyed being able to hang out and chat, play video games, watch moves, talk about life and love and sex like guys do, rather than having to deal with poor behaviour under the influence (and to be fair, often with both of us drunk!) It's been difficult to redefine a friendship that was so heavily centred around hanging out at bars.
I suspect that he is drinking again -- if not full on drinking, at least slipping and not telling me about it -- and I'm wondering if there's any other guys on this forum who are in a similar boat.
Thanks, look forward to hearing from you,
DJ
I'm a 30 year old guy and my best friend is an alcoholic. Apart from the ability to vent a little bit about my frustrations, I've joined this forum to meet some guys around my age who have friends or family with a drinking problem for mutual support.
It seems that a lot of the information on the internet is tailored to partners and parents but not a lot is there about friends (although VERY happy to receive any links that might be useful). It's been a real challenge to switch gears after going out drinking and partying with my best friend all these years, having recognised his problem and resolved not to enable it. I enjoy a drink and a night out now and then, but I must admit that part of me misses the companionship of my mate on these kind of nights, and I'm not really sure how to deal with that. The Australian drinking culture is such that if you don't drink you're a bit of a weirdo, so I can understand that my mate is feeling this from a different angle too.
My friend has been sober for 6 months and I've really enjoyed being able to hang out and chat, play video games, watch moves, talk about life and love and sex like guys do, rather than having to deal with poor behaviour under the influence (and to be fair, often with both of us drunk!) It's been difficult to redefine a friendship that was so heavily centred around hanging out at bars.
I suspect that he is drinking again -- if not full on drinking, at least slipping and not telling me about it -- and I'm wondering if there's any other guys on this forum who are in a similar boat.
Thanks, look forward to hearing from you,
DJ
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