ArtFriend

You can call me Art... but don't call me late for dinner.

SoberLeigh

Funny!!!!!! Especially Thank God and Greyhound You Are Gone.

Briseis

Bahahahahaaaaaaaa! I love it!!!

It's just . . . too much!! lOLoLoL

Briseis

No offense to country music lovin' folk, but yes, sometimes the songs and lyrics in the pop country genre are sooooooooo hilarious!!

DearPrudence

Hey, ArtFriend, I'm glad you're still here.

Gilmer

Because you're a girl, I'll choose to call you "Friend" instead!

Glad you've decided to stay!

FreeOwl

glad you're sticking around.

doggonecarl

In your other post you wrote:

"These types of forums never work for me. The issues are too involved, the interaction too limiting (90% of communication is non-verbal) and things can easily be misconstrued."

Forums have their benefits and their limitations. Perhaps you would find face-to-face support helpful and less likely to be miscontrued.

ArtFriend

I am adjusting my expectations for this forum. And I am working to find a face-to-face arrangement that can more closely suit my needs at this point. My issues, of which there are many I admit, cannot possibly be addressed in a public forum like this. I think this is going to be perhaps a good supplement however. Thanks

biminiblue

I've learned a lot about myself in forums.

This one is the kindest and gentlest of forums I've ever seen.

It is a safe place to learn to let go of our life's burdens. I hope you find it helpful - we're glad you're here.

herradura

Art,

FYI I was a hell of a lot angrier when I first gave up the booze than when I was drinking it. I think it just takes time to work that stuff out. I still get a lot angrier than I used to, but I guess I just feel it more since I am not drunk. Anger is funny when you think about it, all it does is hurt you! When I see someone go off the handle with anger I just look at them and laugh because I don't care if they are angry. It is especially hard when the guy in the mirror is going off the handle. Wish I could control it better!

Charlie117926

Welcome ArtFriend:

I joined up in January of this year as I needed an outlet of like minded people since I wanted to get sober. I tried AA and other things but they just were not for me (my own personal experience and opinion.)

SR has been a great resource for me in supporting me through my highs and lows. There have been plenty of both.

I have found SR to be a great support system for me. I have had many people give me great advice, wisdom and direction in making my plan for sobriety. The resources are endless.

Most of all I just wanted to say hello and welcome aboard!!

ArtFriend

I really never thought of myself as an angry person per se. If you met me I come across quiet, reserved and cordial. This anger thing is new for me. I think I have spent so many years repressing and stuffing my feelings that there is no room left! It's leaking out all over and in inappropriate ways and places. But, yes, anger only hurts the person who has it. Like internal rust eating at your soul.

herradura

It will come out when it comes out and eventually it will get better. I never thought I was an angry person either, but I think my wife would disagree with that!! I still struggle with it daily, especially with stupid things that really don't matter at all. Traffic, people not understanding what I mean, waiting for people who are slow in lines, etc. It will all get better,,, I hope.

ImperfectlyMe

I'm so glad you're staying art. I went back to read the thread you were referring to. It sounds like you are dripping with pain, one can only suffer so long. I agree that getting face to face help for the loss of your sister and mother and deal with your brother is wise.

By far SR has been such a comforting, nurturing, safe place to receive guidance and support for all matters pertaining to addiction. The good folks here also rally around you when life is unbearable for other reasons, as mine currently is.

Keep talking and getting it out, I think you'll find as I have that SR can become more than an anonymous forum, rather a little family.

Be well take care

JD4010

I just stumbled into this thread but I want to add my thumbs-up that you are sticking around, my Friend Art.

ArtFriend

Thank you very much!

Yes, anger is pain externalized. It has its place and purpose, but when it is expressed inappropriately then the troubles start. My theory is that we are not socialized on how to handle anger. We are taught (esp women) that it is not nice to be angry and you must suck it up. It's a viable emotion, but it gets quashed all the time. There is no shame in expressing anger in an appropriate manner AND at an appropriate time. But when you repress it, it comes out later and directed at the wrong person or thing. I just heard someone this morning talking about that guy who beheaded his co-worker. She said he is an "injustice collector". Seems like a small name for what he really is. Here is an extreme case of a guy who repressed his anger to the point of murdering someone.

ArtFriend

You guys are great! Really. I am humbled your outpouring of help and support!

Gilmer

That made me laugh out loud for real!

ImperfectlyMe

I think that might have to be the theme song of the weekender.... Ohhhh ken