Timeforchange7

I am so embarrassed to say I joined up here at the beginning of the week and still I haven't been able to stop drinking :-( . I consumed 2 bottles last night of wine AGAIN ! And I feel physically and mentally awful. I know I'm the only one that can make the changes needed. I've been reading people's stories and have been encouraged and inspired but still with wine in the fridge and the usual lying to myself that I don't have to drink it. I need to stop I want to stop I hate myself for not. :-(

isittime

I know the feeling. I make up excuses to my husband. I stop for drinks in pubs, hide it in the bathroom. It's ridiculous. I have a serious problem.

heartcore

Get the wine out of the fridge!! Get the wine out of the house! Do not purchase any more wine!

Gee, that was easy...

No, seriously, I don't think many folks are going to make it through the first 24 hours sober with the wine chilling in the fridge. You are about to embark on a challenging adventure, likely one of the hardest & most meaningful of your life. You have to throw yourself in, full force & with every atom of your being...

MelindaFlowers

Hey Timeforchange,

I said I would stop and drank again the very same day thousands of times. I guess there is no magical potion. It sounds so cliche, but I had to get sick and tired of being sick and tired. I had to keep it simple as well and reward myself in other ways. Candy? Check. Soda? Check. Lazy afternoon naps? Check. I even started buying fun things at Target with all the money I was saving from not buying booze which was about $300 a month.

I don't think there is any other way than white-knuckling it the first week or so. I had many fingernails on the chalkboard moments which were often soothed by chocolate or a milkshake. Stay in the moment and just don't drink today. Worry about tomorrow when it comes.

roguedreams

I too joined here when I was still drinking. I think I knew I was done, I just - couldn't plug the jug.

But I read, and read, and read ... and I thought, golly, if they can do it - why not I?

And I did it, back April 2, I went sober for a couple months. I think one of my mistakes that led to my relapse was that I did not seek support IRL, so this time around I've been going to AA meetings as a way of getting a positive, sober influence face-to-face. I daresay I've been a lot more calm and made a ton more "mental progress" than I did this past spring.

Good to meet you! Just sharing what's worked for me so far - ya know, my .02

Dee74

Hi timeforchange

I think some of us really need to work SR hard...post when you're having trouble, and before you break down and drink...really listen to what people are saying and look into the suggestions they make.

Visit the site every day...join the Class of September group...make a daily commitment to staying sober in the 24 Hour Recovery Connections thread.

Join any other threads you find useful.
Really become a part of this community - make SR a part of every day

If, after all that, you're still drinking, then maybe you need more help than just SR?

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Timeforchange7

Thanks for everyone's reply they are really helpful I intend to become sober I don't want to drink but (not an excuse ) the changes are massive people I love and care about I will have to leave behind as they are massive triggers ( party hard with them !) anyway first step the fridge is empty of wine :-)

Treerat66

Hi Timeforchange7

It's time to pour the wine away. Then find yourself other things to do. Remember to keep well hydrated.

MyTime86

My friends still party hard. But I remain sober because I feel better about me now

PurpleKnight

You can turn this around, tweak your plan moving forward and you'll get there!!

roguedreams

Rome wasn't built in a day! Baby steps ... sounds like you did the first one, emptying the fridge of wine

Keep us posted, let us know how you're doing!

SoberLeigh

If your one and only connection to these people is partying and drinking, maybe so. If not, you may have to stay away from them until you are much stronger in your commitment to sobriety. Is there any way to separate any of the friendships from drinking activities? Biking, hiking, movies, cooking classes? That way you can continue to maintain the friendships until you have built those sober muscles.

Elodie

^^^ what soberleigh said. I still hang out with my friends. Just now, instead of bars, we go to movies, or to lunch or brunch, or out for tea, or shopping. You can do that too.

youngconfused

I do the same thing read and read and still do my crap! Keep reading keep looking and keep on fighting! Any baby step is a step closer to recovery!

MavisTheFairy13

Just take it one day at a time and when you are getting that urge to drink, post and get the support you need to get you through. If your friends are true friends they will support your decision and help you by changing boozy nights out to booze free socialising