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Old 09-22-2014, 09:55 AM
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This cant happen again

I have to keep telling myself " you're strong, you can do this". But can I ?......My kids are so proud of me. God I was an awful mother to them when I was drinking. Little sweet souls forgave me then if I slip ill loose their trust. Memories are vivid now. Ive gotta stay strong
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You can do this and when you feel like you can't-come here.
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Old 09-22-2014, 10:15 AM
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Kids are the most forgiving and resilient souls. All you can do is move forward
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Old 09-22-2014, 10:26 AM
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Old 09-22-2014, 10:50 AM
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Welcome to the Forum!!

You'll find loads of support here on SR!! You can make this happen!!
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Welcome to the family. Yes, if you slip you could lose their trust again. Be sure your sobriety is your first priority.
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Welcome ystagalvan! Making new, sober memories of mom is what you can do today - and your kids will remember that. Be strong!
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Old 09-22-2014, 11:19 AM
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Old 09-22-2014, 12:18 PM
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I've been sober for six years and nothing I've ever done has impressed and thrilled my children more than my getting and staying sober. It took some time (I had quit before, without lasting results) but eventually I started being used as an example (this is delicious, and usually happens when some celebrity bottoms out...one of my sons will say "They could stop if they tried...MOM DID").

I wish I could give you the magical answer to sobriety, but I don't know why I finally stopped for good. I will say that I was as miserable as you probably are, but it passes. It felt like I had been engulfed in darkness, and with each passing day a little more light came in, until one day it was all light. You can do it.
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Welcome, ystagalvan, to SR. You are strong and you can do this. Keep your beautiful children and your sobriety as Nos. 1.
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Old 09-22-2014, 12:36 PM
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Father of 2 here and let me tell you that the best motivation to stay sober is them!!

Think about how much you love them
Think about how you deserve better for them
Think about how they love you and they want to see you happy and strong

We love them more then ourselves... and by FAR!

So let's do this for them first, and us second!

I'm right with you! Sober for 3 days now, and I swear, as true as the tears rolling down my face right now, that you and I can do this, we can break this addiction...

and we will!
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We know our children are our highest priority. We can be strong for them.
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Old 09-22-2014, 01:59 PM
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Welcome! We're so glad you're here. Being with us will help you stay on track. We know you an do it Ystagalvan.
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Our poor kids go through so much, even if we don't see it on the outside. My mom was (is) an alcoholic and even though she was the "perfect mom," I remember feeling confused when she passed out in front of the TV every night and I couldn't wake her up. I always vowed that I would never turn out like her, but I did. I'm only on Day 5, so I don't have any advice for you, but you're doing the right thing. Best of luck to you.
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Old 09-22-2014, 02:56 PM
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Thank You

Thank you all so much!!!! I feel ashamed most of the time well all of the time I think and remember how emotionally drawn I was from them, I have a feeling I will be able to come here when I have memories and not feel bad judgements.
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