god help the beast in me
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Originally Posted by lorothar 
I want to have the strength to quit on my own, and do not want to face my girlfriends disappointment of me NEEDING to go to AA meetings or any kinds of programs like that. I feel she would suddenly realize that my drinking is a very serious problem and resent me. She currently finds me very responsible with my drinking as I am not a mean drunk, I am a sweet goofy drunk (with the exception of last night apparently)
I feel my drinking is a serious problem. However I make excuses that maybe it's not as bad as I think it is. I am only 26 yrs old, my best friend drinks almost every night and is responsible like I am. My brother brews his own beer and drinks every night too--is happily married etc. All the people I look up to around me drink which makes it even more difficult to quit.
I am just not sure what to do
I feel my drinking is a serious problem. However I make excuses that maybe it's not as bad as I think it is. I am only 26 yrs old, my best friend drinks almost every night and is responsible like I am. My brother brews his own beer and drinks every night too--is happily married etc. All the people I look up to around me drink which makes it even more difficult to quit.
I am just not sure what to do
Who cares about the other people that are drinking. What matter's is that you have come here looking for answers which means that you are concerned about your drinking and I would probably say that you do have a problem with drink. What you need to do is except the problem and then take a day at a time of Sobriety. Also never look at others and how happy they look even though they drink everyday. Nobody know's what happens behind closed doors! Everyone puts up some kind of front in public.
I drank every day after work to get drunk and more so over the weekends. I hid my drink from everyone. if I was going out, I would control myself in public, but couldn't wait to get home where I could kick back on my own and knock some strong beers followed by Whiskey. No one knew I had a problem I was a functioning alcoholic, so from the outside many people respected me, but I had dark secret that I carried around with me!
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Originally Posted by lorothar
Every morning I tell myself I am going to quit and then after work around 6pm those cravings come back.
A lot of reading on this site may be of much help for you. Also, many have recovered in AA -- if willing.
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I am happy to say that I didn't drink last night!! On day 2 of sobriety. 
Unfortunately there is a going away party for a co-worker tonight for happy hour. I trust I will have the strength to simply buy her a shot, say my stomach is bothering me and just drink water. Hope all is well with everyone, thanks so much for your support! I will hop back on this thread often to let everyone know how I am doing.
Unfortunately there is a going away party for a co-worker tonight for happy hour. I trust I will have the strength to simply buy her a shot, say my stomach is bothering me and just drink water. Hope all is well with everyone, thanks so much for your support! I will hop back on this thread often to let everyone know how I am doing.
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Good to have you here lorothar. It is great you made it two days! Good for you!
You may have to consider changing people, places, things for a while and if you believe the temptation to drink tonight will be there, I would suggest not going to the happy hour event. You certainly can say you don't feel well and gracefully decline.
If you are serious about getting and staying sober, sometimes you just have to say "no" to drinking situations, especially in the early stages of recovery.
With that being said, it sounds like you have figured out how to be sober without worrying about what your GF might think of it. This is also very good.
I suggest sticking around the forums and reading and posting often. Many people have gotten sober through SR and others have sought help elsewhere via AA, Smart Recovery, etc. and some do both or many of these programs as well.
Having support helps, tremendously, I know as I am only on Day Four here, but I couldn't have gotten through yesterday without this site's help.
Glad you are here. Please keep posting.
You may have to consider changing people, places, things for a while and if you believe the temptation to drink tonight will be there, I would suggest not going to the happy hour event. You certainly can say you don't feel well and gracefully decline.
If you are serious about getting and staying sober, sometimes you just have to say "no" to drinking situations, especially in the early stages of recovery.
With that being said, it sounds like you have figured out how to be sober without worrying about what your GF might think of it. This is also very good.
I suggest sticking around the forums and reading and posting often. Many people have gotten sober through SR and others have sought help elsewhere via AA, Smart Recovery, etc. and some do both or many of these programs as well.
Having support helps, tremendously, I know as I am only on Day Four here, but I couldn't have gotten through yesterday without this site's help.
Glad you are here. Please keep posting.
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I have been there. The "jerk" starts to come out more frequently over time so eventually she will leave you. Alcohol will become more important to you than anyone else in your life. Your not giving her much credit if you think she will react in any other way than supportive. Secrets ruin relationships.
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