Getting sucked back into the chaos
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Getting sucked back into the chaos
Come here little boy ....... lets get on the crazy train.
I read this and realized how true it was. Because of my daughter's death I was forced to have interactions with my totally loony tunes and extremely evil ex wife. She is trying her best to draw me back into her insane world. I finally said, "Never contact again! "
Just pondering why sick people do this because it seems to be a pretty common theme
I read this and realized how true it was. Because of my daughter's death I was forced to have interactions with my totally loony tunes and extremely evil ex wife. She is trying her best to draw me back into her insane world. I finally said, "Never contact again! "
Just pondering why sick people do this because it seems to be a pretty common theme
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Originally Posted by MIRecovery 
Come here little boy ....... lets get on the crazy train.
I read this and realized how true it was. Because of my daughter's death I was forced to have interactions with my totally loony tunes and extremely evil ex wife. She is trying her best to draw me back into her insane world. I finally said, "Never contact again! "
Just pondering why sick people do this because it seems to be a pretty common theme
I read this and realized how true it was. Because of my daughter's death I was forced to have interactions with my totally loony tunes and extremely evil ex wife. She is trying her best to draw me back into her insane world. I finally said, "Never contact again! "
Just pondering why sick people do this because it seems to be a pretty common theme
Don't try to figure them out, learn from them, or deal with them. (to the best of your abilities) just write them off.
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I believe they call it Hoovering - like the vacuum cleaner. Trying to suck you back in. They feed off of your reaction. If you cut them off, like you did, you take their power away. Hang in there you did the right thing.
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Classic Hoover lines from a very close person in my life who is 54 earth years but stuck at 16 years mentally;
I am DONE with them!
Don't talk to me ever again!
No, what I SAID was.....!
I don't mean to be mean but you know what I think of ..........(fill in any name here)
It's the WAY you talk to me!
You know what YOU need to do?! ( fill in really bad, self centered advice here)
If it were me I'd.......( corollary to above)
You should be Angry and mad about ( well, any minor thing )
You know what I would have SAID!!!
Let us not get sucked in!
Peace, God please...
Sorry you are going through this,
Come to think of it - sorry I'm going through this as well.....
I am DONE with them!
Don't talk to me ever again!
No, what I SAID was.....!
I don't mean to be mean but you know what I think of ..........(fill in any name here)
It's the WAY you talk to me!
You know what YOU need to do?! ( fill in really bad, self centered advice here)
If it were me I'd.......( corollary to above)
You should be Angry and mad about ( well, any minor thing )
You know what I would have SAID!!!
Let us not get sucked in!
Peace, God please...
Sorry you are going through this,
Come to think of it - sorry I'm going through this as well.....
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I think it's good that you are aware of what's happening and that you're taking action. I hope you continue to heal from the loss of your daughter.
I had distanced myself from my family and when my father died 18 months ago, I got sucked back into my brother's life because we were co-executors of the will. I can't tell you how horrible that felt and how relieved (and yet, sad) when it was over and I could distance myself once again.
I had distanced myself from my family and when my father died 18 months ago, I got sucked back into my brother's life because we were co-executors of the will. I can't tell you how horrible that felt and how relieved (and yet, sad) when it was over and I could distance myself once again.
A Day at a Time
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Whoa some great advice. Think I hit a hot button in many of you who obviously know exactly what I talking about.
What amazes me is how good they are at it. You don't even know they are doing it until you step back a little and play the tape all the way through. Then it becomes very obvious that any involvement with these people is toxic on multiple levels
What amazes me is how good they are at it. You don't even know they are doing it until you step back a little and play the tape all the way through. Then it becomes very obvious that any involvement with these people is toxic on multiple levels
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People like that have an addiction to the chaos and drama that most likely will stay with them trough their lives. Kind of sad in a way.
We are the lucky ones because without ever drinking we get to live a normal life. Stay strong, kick the drama to the curb.
We are the lucky ones because without ever drinking we get to live a normal life. Stay strong, kick the drama to the curb.
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