tonib

I met this really nice guy online an we've been talking for awhile an we have plans to meet Saturday... i am really nerve an excited.. Di u guys think a glass of wine should be fine w j dinner? Im really struggling with this decision.. it would calm my nerves a lot... an plus to be able to social drink on a date would be awesome

Tonymblue

I can only speak for myself. I cant drink at all even socially. Wish i could, but i cant.

PurpleKnight

Are you a recovering alcoholic? Can you control your drinking?

You are a "non drinker" from now on, that is it, no going back, this is an all or nothing situation, not a pick and choose!!

least

I wouldn't do it. One glass will always lead to more for me. I dare not have the first one.

justinJustQuit

No way in hell for me. There's no way it's worth it.

Soberwolf

Are you joking ? Focus on why you got sober

bunnezjp

If you can't go on this date and not drink (if you're, in fact in recovery), then you may rethink going. Play the tape through.

This alcoholic got drunk on MANY first dates. Its not cool.

Bunnez

FormerDrunkGuy

No

Mairie

I wouldn't drink if it was me, as I'd then carry on drinking and make a complete a$$ of myself in front of this wonderful guy Nice guys don't come along often, why risk it?

PurpleKnight

Seriously tonib, in the context of a recovery forum, your question is outrageous, 1 glass of wine? alcohol? are you serious??

tonib

U guys are right... guys it was my craving talking

Mairie

Good girl

Verte

No. Hmm. No.

Anybody that I want to spend a minute with, let alone an entire dinner, would not want me to have a glass of wine with dinner. One glass would be the ticket to the gates of hell.

Try to let go of the struggle. Enjoy being yourself on this blind date. Consider it an adventure. Take a few deep breaths. A glass of wine is not essential to who you are and what you have to offer. And fingers crossed that your date is an interesting one.

Hope2014

1 drink is too many and 10 is never enough....
Why not meet for coffee instead? Or lunch instead of dinner....alcohol may not even come up. It's a first date, how can he see the real you if you need to medicate with wine?

Soberwolf

We care more about you Toni in time I feel bad but glad you see it

Doing really well for posting u could have bottled that up and put urrself at risk in a extremely high risk situation and ending up relapsing but u didn't

Ur amazing for that

VikingGF

I snarfed my tea out at that one, tonib! As long as you stop at 1! (If I was on that date, that would be when pigs fly.)

Glad you posted, glad you see that might not be the best way forward.

Have a fun date!

Alynn

No don't do it! Who knows he could be someone you end up seeing a long time and you want it to be honest from the start...

I can do all things through he who strengthens me

Nuudawn

Blind date? First date?
You want to have a drink to impair your senses and judgement?
Whoever came up with this custom? Truly! It's kind of ridiculous.

Why are we not keeping all our wits about us when dealing with strangers.
Just a thought.

And hey..you're on this site. Is it ever really..ever one drink?

Nowsthetime

Not drinking is sexy. Don't hide it. Embrace it. You don't have to open all the way up about it and if you like the person you can make a joke about being an eternal DD. Be yourself from the beginning. It's the best way to be.

MythOfSisyphus

The wine is a bad idea, tonib. But since you're starting out on something new with a new guy, why not go all in and do something completely different? Take a chance and get to know the guy sober. See what that life is like.