The first step is admitting your an alcoholic right?
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I know of no "alcohol enhanced" people, whether alcoholic or problem drinker, who have looked back after a period of life change and sobriety and said "wow, life was so much better when I was drinking".
I can find quizzes online that say my drinking is fine, and others that say I'm a full blown alcoholic. A lot of it has to do with whose quiz it is, and how brutally honest you are in answering the questions.
I don't need a label. My drinking affects ME and my happiness. That's enough. The grass in this case really is greener.
I can find quizzes online that say my drinking is fine, and others that say I'm a full blown alcoholic. A lot of it has to do with whose quiz it is, and how brutally honest you are in answering the questions.
I don't need a label. My drinking affects ME and my happiness. That's enough. The grass in this case really is greener.
Just glad I'm beginning to realise this now
I'm just know willing to admit that I am... Not ready to tell everyone around me because I feel like they would give me "the look". If that makes any since.
I had a DUI last year and counseling. He told me it would not get any better but I wanted to try and moderate. Well guess what. It has only progressed. The amount, the behavior, the foolishness, the loss of relationships. I can't stand it anymore so it's time that I have to face up to the fact that I am an alcoholic. Feels weird even typing it.
I had a DUI last year and counseling. He told me it would not get any better but I wanted to try and moderate. Well guess what. It has only progressed. The amount, the behavior, the foolishness, the loss of relationships. I can't stand it anymore so it's time that I have to face up to the fact that I am an alcoholic. Feels weird even typing it.
Love him all you want, he's never going to treat you right
Unfortunately, after literately hundreds of attempts and hundreds of failures, I realized it was impossible for me to just have a few drinks. I finally just gave in and said enough. I accepted that drinking was no longer an option. However, I don't label myself, rather I just see myself a person who no longer drinks.
I was just going to say someone needs to read this book ASAP.
Maybe a more politically correct term could be "alcohol challenged". Doesn't matter I realized I had a problem years ago and did nothing about it. Quit a few times but always ended up relapsing and drinking more. My near death experience changed all of that and I hope you don't let it get to that point.
Rebuilding Yourself is scary stuff but you did not get sick in a day and you aren't going to get better in one either. One thing I like about AA is it comes with a blueprint for living and people to use as role models.
Everything is dependent on your sobriety. Take it take a day at time and each day will get a little better
Everything is dependent on your sobriety. Take it take a day at time and each day will get a little better
at one time I compared my drunkard self to others. I wasn't known around town as a drunk. I never got arrested. Never had rehab. Never went to AA (only because of my own internal shame of having others see me, I'm still getting up the nerve to try it a few times, just to see what it truly is) . I have never taken any meds for anything to do with mental health. I never did a lot of the things many have. BUT, I'm no less a drunk (I prefer that word over alcoholic, but I'll use either) I was luckier, I had certain limitations (which I am thrilled to have had) otherwise, I very easily could've been a fallen down homeless drunken middle aged woman. SO I'm no better. In fact, I have the utmost respect for all of my fellow alcoholics who have come from such a place that they are now living sober and successful lives. ITS truly amazing and they inspire me to try things I was afraid to try. Just knowing there are other people who think like me, who are me with a different outside packaging is so comforting.
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I'm just know willing to admit that I am... Not ready to tell everyone around me because I feel like they would give me "the look". If that makes any since.
I had a DUI last year and counseling. He told me it would not get any better but I wanted to try and moderate. Well guess what. It has only progressed. The amount, the behavior, the foolishness, the loss of relationships. I can't stand it anymore so it's time that I have to face up to the fact that I am an alcoholic. Feels weird even typing it.
I had a DUI last year and counseling. He told me it would not get any better but I wanted to try and moderate. Well guess what. It has only progressed. The amount, the behavior, the foolishness, the loss of relationships. I can't stand it anymore so it's time that I have to face up to the fact that I am an alcoholic. Feels weird even typing it.
I think the only advice i can give you is the advice that has been given to me yesterday
The only way is to stop! x
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But it's a love with a bad boyfriend. The one who texts you at inappropriate times, controls who you see, makes you pay for all the dates, makes you do things you don't want to do, and leaves you filled with regret in the morning.
Love him all you want, he's never going to treat you right
Love him all you want, he's never going to treat you right
I never really use the term "alcoholic" although I am the textbook/cliche/token alcoholic. Drinking was causing huge problems in my life. That's what made me stop. I knew it was a problem for a few years before I stopped.
It took me many years and a lot of torture to want to be sober more than I wanted to drink and that hasn't swayed, but I will admit that the idea of "forever" still baffles me. I recommend staying in the day. I will not drink today.
It took me many years and a lot of torture to want to be sober more than I wanted to drink and that hasn't swayed, but I will admit that the idea of "forever" still baffles me. I recommend staying in the day. I will not drink today.
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I found it tough to admit. Intellectually, I knew I had a serious problem, but deep down inside a part of me still believed I could figure out a way to control my drinking and not suffer any consequences.
Unfortunately, after literately hundreds of attempts and hundreds of failures, I realized it was impossible for me to just have a few drinks. I finally just gave in and said enough. I accepted that drinking was no longer an option. However, I don't label myself, rather I just see myself a person who no longer drinks.
Unfortunately, after literately hundreds of attempts and hundreds of failures, I realized it was impossible for me to just have a few drinks. I finally just gave in and said enough. I accepted that drinking was no longer an option. However, I don't label myself, rather I just see myself a person who no longer drinks.
... except stop drinking before i black out
its hard to believe i little bottle can wield such power, huh? x
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Maybe a more politically correct term could be "alcohol challenged". Doesn't matter I realized I had a problem years ago and did nothing about it. Quit a few times but always ended up relapsing and drinking more. My near death experience changed all of that and I hope you don't let it get to that point.
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